I am a very easy going guy, I dont demand a lot of my girlfriend, however one thing that I can't stand about her is the way she dresses. I guess you could say she dresses like every other American girl out there, and that style just bothers me so much. I just think women look so much better clothed, when they aren't wearing skin tight tank tops, with tons of chest skin showing, or when they aren't wearing bikinis which are basically the same as a girl running around in her underwear (which I find disgusting). Anyway so I have been dating my girlfriend for a year, and a half, and she is a great person, we really get along and all that, but I just can't stand the way she dresses. Sometimes she wears really tight tank tops that honestly make me want to gag, and just about everything in her wardrobe shows chest skin, not necessarily cleavage, but just skin (which I also dont like). I think she is beautiful, but not when she dresses like that, I have hinted at her multiple tims that I prefer the way she dresses in the winter time (although she didn't realy notice). Anyway I told her I really didn't think tank tops were attractive, and also suggested she wear more crewneck shirts, and even offered to go out with her to buy her some, and she seemed all offended. She actually told me she makes an effort to dress up everyday, which I was baffled by because I dont really think her choice of clothes looks that good at all. Anyway I dont tell normal girls this and try my best to ignore it, but since we have been going out for a while and things are getting serious I thought I should tell her one of the only things I dont like about her, and try to get her to change her dress at least a little, she took it not quite as well as I hoped she would, is this unreasonable of me?
Most Helpful Girl
You shouldn't try to change your boyfriend or girlfriend. That is pretty much one of the golden rules. You date someone for who they are today. If you make someone your partner it means accepting them for how they look, dress and act. It's obviously different if we're talking about health situations like a partner taking up smoking or drinking or drugs but when it comes to dress sense then it's one of those things you can't control your partner over. It's their choice and preference and you really have no say in it and shouldn't feel entitled to it either. You can maybe express some feelings about it, like you did, but then you have to leave it and accept it. Dragging it out and making it a big issue will make her feel upset because you are challenging her freedom and asking her to change to make YOU happy and not her and we all know each person is responsible for their own happiness.
You need to accept it or leave. Either way you can't force her to be someone she doesn't want to be. It doesn't work like that in relationships.1
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't want my girl dressing me up, I rather she accept and appreciate how I decide to express myself through clothing.
so yeah, im with your girlfriend on this one.5