I will be the first to admit that I am kind of a nerd, and I have horrible social skills so I struggle talking about things that I percieve not important (like sports, emotions, etc). Its just stuff I literally know nothing about. I prefer to talk about things like business, stocks, investing, technology, and stuff like that, which works great with most men who are into that kind of stuff, but very few women I meet dont really seem interested in talking about the stock market, business practices, or anything remotely related to that, in fact most of them seem turned off by me that those are the only things I know how to talk about, and they usually dont go for a second date. My question is, what do you talk about on a date? I try to get her to do the talking but in my experience that doesn't work that well, because she does all this talking and I will know her whole life story, but she won't know anything about me, so its very awkward. There was this one woman I dated who I kept asking questions and getting to talk, and we went on like 4 dates before she found out that I had 3 brothers, meanwhile I could name her parents, grandparents, entire extended family, etc etc etc. I really just dont even know what to talk about. Before you ask yes I am this bad socially, in a business setting I perform very well, but I can't for the life of me talk to women.
Most Helpful Girl
My first reaction was find women who are nerdy, too. But then I read the part where you perceive emotions as not very important, I thought, oh, that would be a deal-breaker for me. I don't need my boyfriend to be my only friend, but I wouldn't get too involved with a guy who seemed disinterested if I shared something that was emotionally weighty for me, and I'd have a hard time trusting a guy who never shared any of his feelings with me. "Emotionally unavailable." Not sure what advice that leads me to. Can you tell stories about yourself? Like, instead of talking about how you feel about your three brothers, do you have memories to share of when you and your brothers did ___? If you want her to know things about you but you mostly want to talk about business and tech, can you figure out what you want her to know about you (besides business and tech) and share that, or if there isn't other stuff you think is important for her to know about you, figure out what she's supposed to learn about you from your business and tech talk and go there?
I dunno, I'm kinda back to my first instinct. There are probably lots of men you can't find much to talk about with because you're disinterested in sports, and yet you find men to connect to. I think you should be looking for women who are themselves fascinated with the stock market...0
Most Helpful Guy
While I'm better at small talk than you, I sort of share your interests and very few women are interested.
The exception I've found is if I talk about things like relationships or self impovement. Not relationships in the sense of 'who likes who' like gossip (which they enjoy) but more from an abstract model type of view. The way you, with your mind, would look at how relationships and people work and evolve and what makes them fulfilling. It's a topic women love from an angle that they often don't have. I've occasionally spoken about this sort of thing with women, and they are so drawn in it's crazy.0