I've been having a lot of trouble lately determining who is "the one" for me and what I really want in a spouse for the rest of my life and so on, and I've looked a lot into couples and seen where they may appear to be "perfect" but then you look deeper and find out that, of course, they aren't. I know relationships won't ever be perfect, but how do you know when you've met the one you are supposed to figure it all out with?
you don't "find" the one, you become the one. people expect happiness to come from external sources when it should originate from one's self. also in the era of ego, noone cares to take the blame for a faulty relationship. imho, the most important forgotten phrase is: "it's my fault!". and its important to do the best possible and be the best possible person when interacting to other humans.
First question, yes I believe in the one. Second question, is the cliche answer of "you'll just know". When it's right, you won't have to wonder if it's right because in your heart you'll just know that it is.
Now, for further unsolicited advice or opinions. You're right that no relationship is perfect but you need to understand that the couples that try REALLY hard to appear perfect to other people, probably aren't and are trying to cover up all the flaws. That's why I don't want perfect, I just want real. Perfection, leads to disappointment but being real as an individual and a couple leaves less worry for getting disappointed by the little things they do.
Also, just because that perfect or any couple fights. Doesn't mean that they don't love each other or that they are going to break up. I feel like maybe that's something you might be thinking about and shouldn't, fights don't automatically mean divorce. It's more the issue at hand the couple themselves, when that's put on the table. So, don't think disagreements are a bad thing because sometimes they are actually a good thing.
Another thing, I think people spend too much time trying to figure out what they want in a spouse but the truth is when it's right you'll just know they are someone you want to marry. It's not about figuring out before hand what qualities you want them have because that could change through out the course of your dating life. It's about just letting it happen and when you find someone REALLY special who you can't imagine living without, then not only will you know it's right but you'll suddenly know what you want because you want them and everything that makes them who they are, the good, the bad and the otherwise. Just a little perspective for you.
I am not sure that there is only "ONE." But i am sure there are only "some."
I won't tell my story really, but it is sufficient to say that I have experience the "one" and we were deeply compatible spiritually, mentally and physically. And i think you need to be that way on all three axis, not just 1 or 2 of them.
When i say spiritually, I do not just mean "religiously" I mean that we were deeply and emotionally connected, could feel one another, and felt one in the deepest sense. It is hard to explain, but you know it when it is there. If you don't know it, it isn't happening.
I only believe that there are some individuals in the world who both find each other physically attractive, and their behavior and values are sufficiently compatible enough that the two would rather be together than apart.
There is no such thing as "the one". There's only "sufficiently mutually compatible partners with mutual interest".
The one? I thought I did until I got divorced. Then I realized that there is no one who is perfect for each other; you have to pick 5 things your five turnoff and manage the rest. I recommend you listen to my friend Dan Savage, he is awesome on relationships advice, check on youtube for Dan Savage, the price of admission.
Yes I believe in the one, but rather I believe that there is simply someone out there whom I will spend my life with, not so much that I am destined to be with one specific person, maybe I've her before, maybe I know her now or perhaps I haven't met yet, who knows -shrugs-.
I believe "the one" is more or less a perfect fit, as in the pieces of the puzzle all come together. However, there isn't any only "the one", there's hundreds, if not thousands or more of people that could be "the one" to someone. Just as there's thounsands of different puzzle pieces from different pictures that could complete your's.
No, there are lots of people you can spend the rest of your life with happily. "The one" is merely a fairytale. Even though you can never be 100% compatible with someone, you can be enough compatible to live happily ever after with one person in every ten people you meet.
I honestly think it is the person's choice. My wife was the one I choose. Yes we had great chemistry but as you progress in marriage we change. What I wanted when we got married is completely different than what I want know. I think most people do not realize this. Does this change mean it will be bad for the marriage no, it just means learning more about each other. Love is a choice and you can choose not to love or to love everyday.
There is no such thing as the one, it's just something that people say to keep their faith in finding someone who they love and who loves them back as much as they want. In reality, humans weren't supposed to be bound to anyone, it was only when mankind started the predecessor of society that being bound to someone became a thing.
Female finds 80%+ guys unattractive, while that 20% of guys left are common to all woman. Mathematically, majority of woman can't be happy. Guys on the other hand, find majority of woman attractive. This shit just can't work, especially for woman. Just look how their eyes glaze and how they act serious when hot guy is in their presence.
The one is a construction of our mind. Is not realistic since is perfect, it doesn't considere flaws and we will see peaces of that construction whit the persons we will have relationship whit across time.
For me personally I believe I've met the right one when I meet a guy who is my best friend while I feel chemistry at the same time. It's important that my partner is literally like a best friend and someone I could talk to about anything. If I need to be on my tip toes all the time and he's hot/cold with me then he's not the one for me. I don't believe there's only one person out there for everyone. But I do believe you are more cut out for one person over say another due to compatibility and chemistry.
I've always believed that we make our own "destiny" and that statistically, there will be a handful of people we'll come across in life with whom we are deeply compatible and some of those are going to be great friends, others will be lovers and some might be family.
I believe that there are many people out there who could potentially be someone you'd fall in love with perpetually. However, your choices and decisions influences which of them you'll meet. There are so many factors that are involved when making a relationship last, the most important of them being timing. You may have met that person already but due to certain circumstances, you didn't see it, or things didn't work out.
In despite of all, I think anybody could be that idealistic perception of 'the one' if at the end of the day, they're invested in you as much as you are in them.
I don't believe in "the one", although I do believe in soul mates. Rather than believing that there is one person for everyone, I believe that each person had multiple soul mates, multiple who they could have a happy, fulfilling relationship with. I don't believe that there is just one person you're meant to be with, where if you screw it up with them, you're done.
I don't believe in "the one". I don't believe there is an ocean of guys (literally 3 billions of people) who can be "the one" for me either, but there's definitely a small lake of guys who could be happy with me as I could be happy with them.
There is such thing as a soulmate everyone has one, its this out of the world feeling you get tingly and feel like your on a natural high being happy with that person all the time willing to do things you never saw yourself doing and all this mushy gushy stuff all girls say is true when their in love you'll know when you have the one with the unforgettable feeling she or he gives you.
There is no single "the one." You will be varying degrees of compatibility between all the people you meet and "the one" is the person you decide is compatible enough that you are willing to spend the rest of your life with them.
I think there can be more than one compatible partner. I think The One is just bullshit and I think it's another word for a guy or a girl that will put up with someone's bullshit and the person stays with them because they feel they are done looking and they can't find anyone else. Especially men
"the one" desnt excist.
to be honest i think all men are assholes and can never be faithful so in my opinion there isn't "the one" well instead better try to find "the one" vibrator
I didn't know who was right for me either until I met him. The first time I met my fiancé I knew there was something special about him. He was the first person I saw in the room, when our eyes locked everything else blurred. When I finally managed to look away I remember thinking "Woah". I felt like Bambi as I walked towards my friends table and I actually felt dizzy. It was as if I had finished a marathon, with weak and unstable knees and a racing heart. We couldn't tear our eyes away from eachother the entire night.
I have never felt this way before, there's always been some kind of doubt about whether the person was right for me or not and everytime I've felt that doubt I've been right. But after the night I met my guy, there was something in me that just felt complete, which is crazy because we had just met.
We've been through a lot and there definitely were disturbing incidents in our lives that affected our relationship. But the thing is that through everything, whatever life threw at us, it remained disturbing and not destroying.
That's why I know.
There is no "one". You just have to use your best judgement and find a partner who supports and lives and respects you as much as you do them. Inequalities and injustice and lack of respect are killers in relationships.