My girlfriend texts me way too much, how can I reduce it?

I have a lovely girlfriend and while I love her and talking to her and occasional texting on WhatsApp and the like, I feel like we are texting way too much. She feels like she needs to share everything with me and I do enjoy reading her texts, but I feel like it's started to bother me. She sends me 'pointless' banter which I have no answer to and I feel like I become boring with short answers. I also feel like not sharing everything I've done, so that I have something to tell her when I actually see her. There's also fear that we might grow sick of each other this way. How should I go about this?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • When you see her again just tell her that you feel like you guys are over texting each other a bit. She might be angry at first (girls get quite fussy when it comes to texting) but just tell her that it's not that you don't enjoy chatting it's just that you don't have time to whatsapp all day and would prefer quality over quantity. I'm sure if you explain to her well enough she'll get it.

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What Girls Said 5

  • You and your SO are in this Real Relationship, @Regicrust, so if so, then Open lines of Convo is one of the most important factor in any new or old relationship, and not Just... Her texts.
    Time to sit her down, face to face, and spill out your gut and heart felt feelings like you have done here, dear. Explain to her in alight and sweet way that you enjoy and love hearing from her but one or two text a day is great because everything else can be Saved for the Best from the Rest when you are together again.
    The same way you work out being together is the same way you can put this to bed so you both can continue to get ahead...
    I agree that This can get old real quick.
    Good luck. xx

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  • You know girls kinda get like that in a relationship without even knowing it... Tbh there is no nice way to tell her that her texts bore you, I'm a girl so I know how she would feel when you tell her that and it's not going to be good Lol... now to the solution, whenever she starts to bore you, you could say that you need to talk to your parents or help around the house or some other thing involving family or maybe you're busy with work or school or something and ask her if you could text her afterwards... A little bit of white lies are better than straight out telling her :D

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  • Ahh well you will have to talk to her about it, nicely!
    I wouldn't tell her it annoys the shit out of you, but you could say it distracts you from school/work and you'd love to hear all about her day when you meet up in person or while texting in the evening instead of during the day. And that if you don't answer during the day, it's because you are busy
    Chances are that by the evening, she'll have forgotten about every single little thing that happened during the day 😉

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  • communication is supposed to be the foundation of any relationship!.. you should be glad that she's spending time text u and stuff... but since you don't seem to appreciate it i think that you should just tell her the truth

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  • Just reply much slower, the pace of the conversation will die down and she will entertain herself instead of needing to message you every two seconds.

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