I recently re-joined online dating. I am not getting the same results I got a year ago!
Most Helpful Girl
The One thing that I do know that has gotten More in store with 'Online dating' here, dear, is the false profiles and scams and scammers.
I have talked to a lot of different guys who have gone on dating sites and found many or even nearly One that was no fun because they were All the Above.
Make your own profile as presentable as you can as a man. Make yourself as interesting as you can and be Exact. There is actually girls out there who are looking and lurking for an Honest John.
Good luck. xx4
Most Helpful Guy
Guys shouldn't be "online" dating, anyway.
Right off the bat, if a guy is on a dating website, his perceived value and attractiveness as a man is below the basement floor tiles.
Additionally, the Internet doesn't work the same way for guys as it does for girls. If you're a girl (and you're physically attractive), the Internet is candy land for dating. Put up a Facebook, an Instagram, a Twitter, a Tumblr, etc., pictures galore. You don't have to say a thing. 4,000+ "likes" or whatever per day! That's not just "page views," but affirmative engagement by "customers." They're communicating and giving feedback in that they like what they see.
Now, granted, this has a negative effect on a girl's dating life. It turns off other men that would otherwise be interested. They see 4,000 guys competing for attention, and they think, "Fuck that, I'm not going to waste my time and energy being one in 4,000, just so she can automatically lump me into the 'just another guy looking for sex' category in her head." So, the "quantity" is there, but the "quality" is actually filtered "out."
Men, on the other hand, don't have a "quantity" problem. Guys also do not want a "quantity" problem, unless they're just looking for sex. So, unless your new religion is "Fitness & the Gym," if you aspire to be the kind of guy who takes half-naked selfies and have that be your online identity, then what you're communicating is that you're just looking for sex.
Men aren't "present" through sites like Facebook, or Instagram, etc., where "pictures" are the main form of communication regarding their value.
No, men are present through sites like "Google" and "LinkedIn." It doesn't matter so much "what they look like," as much as "who they are" (i. e., in society). Men "glance" at women, but women "research and evaluate" men.
So, if someone's name is blowing up Google in a good way, or they have a very impressive resume' in terms of work experience and education on their LinkedIn... where there's a will, there's a way.
Women will find a way to send an "In Mail" or contact the guy for a "business question" or "business introduction," or "accidental meeting/run-in" live in person.
"Focusing on taking better pictures for Instagram" is less effective than, "dieting, going to the gym, and dressing better." Similarly, "making a better dating profile" is less effective than, "being someone with higher financial and social status in real life." Focus your energy on the right things.4
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