It happened RIGHT before we got together. We've only been official for a little over a week. They kissed less than a month ago.
They were on and off for a couple of months (he keep breaking up with her and getting back with her). But he tried to stay friends with her after. She was throwing a party for one of her friends, and he went (even though he spent the whole day out on a trip with his club!) He literally came back from his trip, changed, and went with one of his best friends. His friend wanted to go home after awhile so he dropped him off, just to come back to hang out with her and her friends -- but the party was over. Now I found out that HE ENDED UP KISSING HER! He wasn't even drunk.
She's known him a lot longer than I have. I only met him a couple of months ago. He never told her about me, so it's not like she came on to him to spite me. He wanted to stay over after the party, but she told him he shouldn't.
Throughout the time I've known him, they've kissed a couple of times. She even came over his place at 3am just to hangout! He even tried to kiss her then, too. I know for a fact they weren't friends with benefits. But one time he went over her place to drink with her and her roommates. And he slept over -- IN HER BED! They didn't do anything, but that was around the time we started talking.
Does he still have feelings for her? Did he settle for me because he couldn't have her?
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I think the best thing to do here is talk to him about it, ask him why he still goes over to her place and that you feel like the rebound girl that way cause he might still have feelings for her in your eyes. You not talking about it will make him think that you either don't know about it OR ur okay with it, which both are not true in your case. So make him know that you are concerned and BASED ON what he does next after you have talked to him you can act, if he shows some improvement or changes a little for you (im not saying major change its not expected of him on such short notice) then he's worth keeping around, if he becomes defensive and gives you the "im not doing anything wrong" attitude then I think you should drop it and tell him that unless he changes you don't want to be with him and that you think he's not ready to be in a relationship right now. This will make you both grow in his eyes as a person, and make him understand that you know what is going on and ur view on it. A relationship is the work and efforts of two people not one and unless it stays like this, its not going to work. As "selfishness" has no room in a relationship. Gl, Hope this helped.0