He used to message all the time and want to hang out with me but now he barely messages me at all and doesn't chase me at all.
We sleep in the same bed pretty much every night as a given.
He is my close friend as well as whatever he is.
He also knows that he has me wrapped around his little finger and that i won't say no which i hate.
I'm afraid to not do what he wants because i might lose him, but i also don't do anything i dont WANT to do.
He also talks about other girls. I don't mind if he finds them attractive but when he talks about them realistically it hurts my feelings. I don't know if he messages other girls.
He said he liked me once but it's been weird since then.
Sexually we are pretty great.
I'm just really confused at what he wants...
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This is a tough situation... I know you like him a lot and don't want to lose him, but you can't let things continue as they are now; it's not healthy for your mental state (unless you're genuinely fine with being just a f-buddy). It's not healthy for him to have ALL the control.
Try to have a serious conversation about it with him. Tell him you feel like things are getting weird between you guys -- that you're confused about what's going on. Tell him what you're looking for (e. g. something stable, something "real," etc). If he feels like he's on the brink of losing you, then he'll either step up and apologize and try to change because he doesn't want to lose whatever he has going on with you, or he may tell you things you don't want to hear... But either way, you'll have clarity. Even if you're afraid of the answer, ask him what he wants out of "this."
By having a backbone and saying what's on your mind, you take some of that control back.0