We've been on about a dozen dates. And won't pay my half ever. He's paid more than me on occasions, but I always pay at least 35% of the bill, mostly exactly 50%.
I'm very poor. He'll want to meet up, so we end up eating. He still lives at home and doesn't really have many expenses.
It bothers me because he makes more than me, and doesn't have the financial responsibility.
Normally me paying my half or footing the bill is my way of kind of saying, "yah I'm not that interested so I don't feel right getting anything for free."
I could normally respect him not wanting to feel like he's, "wasting money," while we're still getting to know each other, but me just paying my half is putting a lot financially on the line while he risks nothing.
I know my financial woes aren't his problem, but it would be a real bonus if he paid because he wanted to take me out and knew how hard it was.
The only time someone should pay for the whole meal is in the first date, and the one who asked is the one who should pay. After that, if there are more dates, it's clear that you both wanna meet again, therefore he shouldn't have to pay for more than his part. I understand you are poor, but why do you go out to eat? Can't you just say no when he asks if you wanna eat out? There are so many free places you can go that this is no excuse.
We want equality when it benefits us, but when when it doesn't, we cry and put the other one down. I'm pretty sure if the roles are reversed you wouldn't even have accepted his invitation because he has no money, ergo, he's not ambitious and not a man you wanna be with. I've heard this story so many times in real life and in GAG that everybody knows it.
I'm sorry, but you're 25, you're an adult and responsible of your life, if you can't afford something, say no, he has no obligation to pay for you.
If he asked YOU out, then you are completely justified. I don't think it makes any sense for him to ask you out and then ask for you to pay half. That's not a date, fucker. Not to me.
If I ask someone out, I'm paying. I asked you to spend time with me, you acquiesced, so I'm thanking you for that time.
He sounds like a frigging loser. Please dump him and find someone who will know that when he ASKS someone out, HE is supposed to pay UNLESS if the woman makes it known that she'll pay or she'll pay half.
If he didn't ask you out, then I would simply assume that you would pay half. I'm guessing that's not what happened though.
Does he know your financial situation? Also, who's idea is it to go out and eat?
I'm fairly old fashioned but Im understanding of the modern ways. Personally I think you're in the right to get mad if it's usually his idea to eat out and he also knows of your financial situation. This is why if I ever ask someone out to eat and it's a little pricier then I'll pay.
Even with best friends I'll pay or my other friend pays for the whole meal cause we know other friends have it harder financially.
I do appreciate if a girl pays her share, however if he brings you to an expensive place he should consider your financial situation. I do like to have a partner who at least at some point in her life can support their own living. It's not about money or being cheap it's more about principles - about being on the same level. I do not want to buy a girl; and I do not want a girl to like me because she gets free food.
I don't see why he should have to ever pay for you honestly, even if he makes more money, he's not entitled to pay for you. Next time tell him you don't want to eat out or want to eat somewhere cheaper because you don't have as much money as he does. Personally if I made a lot more money than a guy I was out with, I wouldn't mind paying for us to go to nice places but I would be annoyed if that was expected of me.
I say don't go to dinner next time. If someone doesn't have money to go out to eat, then they don't go out to eat. Simple as that. Next time when he suggests that, you say you don't have enough money to splurge it on expensive restaurant food. So you already ate. If he didn't he can buy himself a hot dog at some stand because you don't plan on going somewhere where you can't afford.
you mention you been on a few dates , and makes enough money pays nothing probably just a bit for rent if not nothing , spents more on himself ; when a person is interested they show it he isn't don't allow him to waste your money and time false hope
so tell him you have $ issues. you two could cook something together instead.
If you are 'not that into him' I suggest you dont get upset. why should he pay for you? What are you giving him in return? Maybe set him free and move on to a guy you do like and then will be ok to let him pay for you :)