We've been on about a dozen dates. And won't pay my half ever. He's paid more than me on occasions, but I always pay at least 35% of the bill, mostly exactly 50%.
I'm very poor. He'll want to meet up, so we end up eating. He still lives at home and doesn't really have many expenses.
It bothers me because he makes more than me, and doesn't have the financial responsibility.
Normally me paying my half or footing the bill is my way of kind of saying, "yah I'm not that interested so I don't feel right getting anything for free."
I could normally respect him not wanting to feel like he's, "wasting money," while we're still getting to know each other, but me just paying my half is putting a lot financially on the line while he risks nothing.
I know my financial woes aren't his problem, but it would be a real bonus if he paid because he wanted to take me out and knew how hard it was.
I just need an outside opinion.
Most Helpful Guy
The only time someone should pay for the whole meal is in the first date, and the one who asked is the one who should pay. After that, if there are more dates, it's clear that you both wanna meet again, therefore he shouldn't have to pay for more than his part.
I understand you are poor, but why do you go out to eat? Can't you just say no when he asks if you wanna eat out? There are so many free places you can go that this is no excuse.
We want equality when it benefits us, but when when it doesn't, we cry and put the other one down. I'm pretty sure if the roles are reversed you wouldn't even have accepted his invitation because he has no money, ergo, he's not ambitious and not a man you wanna be with. I've heard this story so many times in real life and in GAG that everybody knows it.
I'm sorry, but you're 25, you're an adult and responsible of your life, if you can't afford something, say no, he has no obligation to pay for you.1
Most Helpful Girl
If he asked YOU out, then you are completely justified. I don't think it makes any sense for him to ask you out and then ask for you to pay half. That's not a date, fucker. Not to me.
If I ask someone out, I'm paying. I asked you to spend time with me, you acquiesced, so I'm thanking you for that time.
He sounds like a frigging loser. Please dump him and find someone who will know that when he ASKS someone out, HE is supposed to pay UNLESS if the woman makes it known that she'll pay or she'll pay half.
If he didn't ask you out, then I would simply assume that you would pay half. I'm guessing that's not what happened though.3