I have dated 2 Chinese boys and after a date or two I had the same outcome. They stopped talking to me. One of them is actually running if I try to talk to him. Both of them really seemed extremely interested at the beginning, but very soon they would run away from me. My question is - they just don't like me or do they get scared of some kind of rejection? I don't feel like I rejected them, just said no to some invitations, while being clearly interested in them. So I didn't think that one NO would cause them to run, but as I can see now, it's possible that it did. Is this a cultural thing? I'm a very pretty girl and I'm also smart and confident, but both of them were also really handsome. None of them spoke English though and I understand this is a very important aspect for them somehow. Can anyone explain what's going on?
They are usually not experienced with girls since very few girls are attracted to them so if any girl says no to any of their invitations, they assume they are being rejected and being seen as "creepy" is the last thing they or any other guy wants. Especially Asian guys.
The Chinese culture is extremely subtle. You could have done (or failed to do) some random thing and that was the lynch pin. Since they don't speak English, I assume you are a Chinese speaker?
The main hangups I know of is the use of titles and gift-giving. A Chinese boy probably doesn't care about how brilliant you are as much as he cares about how sweet you are. They're typically breadwinners even if their girlfriends and wives work, so a strong career showing is unlikely to impress them.