I been dating her for a quite while now, almost 4 months. We are 19. So she was telling me about this guy name Michael in her class. And I asked if they text. She said yeah, so when she was showering I went through her phone and couldn't find the text. That means she deleted the texts... I wanna know why? What did she have to hide? Also I saw this text from "Bruce" something about meeting up at college where she goes to and she never told me about that either. I feel like i am overreacting. Am I? I guess I am jealous. I want to talk to her about it. But I don't want her to think of me as a controlling guy because if I bring it up she is gonna know that I went through her phone and then in future she'll probably make sure that she deletes her texts with other people and I don't want her to do that. I am just paranoid. She is really pretty and I love her. And she goes to college. And college be crazy with guys. I don't know what to do. If I don't talk to her about it, then it'll always be on back of my head. I am kind of stressed out about it! What should I do?
- Should I talk to her about this? But how...Vote A
- Am I being paranoid or crazy?Vote B
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Its normal to be jealous, both guys and girls feel it when their boyfriend/girlfriend interacts with someone else, however it's the level of trust that will make it either an issue or not. You have to learn to trust her 100%, do this by talking to her about what worries you, she equally has to earn your trust.
I was in a similar situation, I was going to university and meeting a lot of guys, while my boyfriend was not, it was difficult to interact with guys in a normal way without it coming across badly toward my boyfriend. It's a difficult situation because you're both young.
My best advise would be to talk to her and don't worry so much.3