Gonna make this short and snappy. I've been talking to this guy, we get along great and planning to meet up. But we live like 50 miles apart. Isit okay if i go to him or if he comes to me? Or we meet in the middle?
I believe if you decide to meet him in no means meet him alone make sure you have someone with you cause it poses a high risk i don't care if you talked to the guy over Skype face to face you can't never be too careful when meeting someone. 1.) If they ask for money by any means them are red flags 2.) If they want meet at night by any means ask why can't we meet in the day which is good thing not night time? 3.) If he wants to come to you to meet take him up on it but by all means don't meet him alone 4.) Watch what language he uses and how he carry's himself cause that does tell lot too. 5.) Never leave any food or drink than walk away to use the restrooms very high risk taking Best wishes on this and hope it works out if you should meet the guy
You are only 50 miles. I have traveled farther than that to get a hamburger; and 1,200 miles just for a date.
You should balance time and financial resources to decide where to meet. Unless it is close to you, a gentleman will ALWAYS pay for the lady's transportation costs. This is a test, he should do it without your asking. If he doesn't, then dump him and find someone else.
And of course you know if meeting someone for the first time to do so in a public place.
Meeting in the middle and in public is by far the best choice. It's the only really safe choice. You really don't want to be going over someone's house the first time you meet someone from the internet offline. What if he's some dangerous criminal in disguise? The first time you're meeting someone from the internet in real life, it should always be in a public place. This clears up any safety issues and also etiquette-wise, it's also the most sound choice (since you are just starting to date).
And of course you should meet about half-way because that's only fair, especially for just a "first meet".
If it's easier and more manageable for you to go to him then do it or vice versa if it's easier for him. If it's equal for you both and there's a nice place to hang out between your two houses I'd say go there. You can explore the unknown place together.
Better to have him come to you or meet in the middle. Meeting in the middle is best coz then if you don't get on you can leave and drive home. make sure someone knows who and where you are meeting and arrange some safety texts or something.
I live several hours from my boyfriend and I always go to him. We just both like his city better than mine. And I didn't have any safety concerns to manage at that first date. I've gotten the advice that a chivalrous man will always do the traveling at least at first, but I wasn't that concerned with his chivalry.
Meet in a public place, I would say in your area/city/town, but in a different neighborhood of where you study/work/live. Why? Again, safety reasons. Halfway you can be followed, be exposed to accidents, God knows. Save halfway for latter once you guys are in a relationship. Let him be the man, and come to you. If he cares, he will show up and not be concerned about fairness or going halfway now... it's the same concept of going halves on a first date... let him show how he cares about you
meet in the middle.
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