I am white, and there is this girl that really likes me who is Asian. I honestly think she is really hot, and she is a really nice person, but I just dont want to date her because she is Asian. Its not because I have anything against Asians, in fact I find Asian culture fascinating, but its because I have been turned off from interracial relationships for a while. In high school my best friend was half Asian half white, and he would always tell me of all the problems he had fitting in. When he went to Japan (where his mom was from) he was treated like a foreigner because he wasn't full Japanese, in the US he wasn't necessarily treated like a foreigner, but white, and black Americans (who made up 99 percent of our school) just didn't talk to him and he couldnt figure out why. They all treated him like an Asian because he looked more Asian then white, but he was half white and that really bothered him. Then of course girls didn't talk to him, and he would get really depressed reading online about how most girls say they dont like Asian men, which he could see because girls didn't talk to him. In Freshman year of college he killed himself and in his suicide note he said multiple times how he hated being a half breed and how he wished he was just a normal Asian or a normal white. It was really depressing and ever since then I have sworn not to date someone of another race because I dont want to put my kids through that identity crisis that I saw in my friend. I kind of like this girl but I just keep thinking about my friend and how he felt about being half Asian half white, and then I just think about my future kids and I can't get past it, I just dont really know, is this crazy of me to do, or is it justified?
Most Helpful Girl
Same here but for different reasons I only date within my race I live in Santa Ana full of Hispanic culture
personally I do not think race should mix I do not like it when I look at a person and can not tell what they are . I do not hate mix people or dislike them I been interested in mixed guys
what happen to your friend is awful internet lies and really sucks he believed lies and that he was in that school surrounded by that vibe. what happen to him doesn't mean will happen to other kids many people are mixed and still alive and are happy
your friend let high school get to him4
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Most Helpful Guy
Wow I'm sorry that happened to your friend. However, I've heard of many stories of Asians and Indians being successful both in and out of their country.
I hate to be harsh and criticize him because I myself am sort of going through the same problem which I'm trying to fix, but maybe it was the insecurity that caused that to happen to him.
I don't think that's a good reason to not date this girl. You'll only be feeding the problem, and besides, acceptance is only growing, so objectively it shouldn't even be nearly as bad when you do have a kid and when that kid goes off to college.
Besides, I've heard that often half-Asian and half-white children are often very conventionally attractive, especially the girls.
I think you should go for it man.1