I know this ask could possibly backfire and I could get a lot of hate, but I need to ask this because I'm getting really frustrated lately.
I'm getting hit on/complimented a lot. Like, a LOT. I recently went natural (meaning I have shorter curly hair now) and part of the reason I sped up the process to do that is because I was hoping that if I cut most of my hair off that I would get less attention.
It has increased ten-fold.
It's gotten to the point where if I'm sitting alone at the mall I almost expect someone to say something to me/approach me. Both happen several times a week and as I get older I'm getting more and more sick of it... a few times a month is fine but I kind of have social anxiety anyway, so all these random people constantly approaching me gets more and more difficult as time continues.
Girls, are there any strategies that you have to put on a "please don't distub me at the moment" vibe? I don't like the advice to put on an RBF because I'm not trying to be rude to people who clearly mean no harm, but I just want this stuff to sloooow down lol. Headphones don't always work, so I need something a little stronger.
And guys, in what situations would you not approach a girl?
Pleaseeee don't say "wear less make-up" and "cover up more" because a) I don't wear any make-up (sometimes I do fill in my eyebrows but not everyday, and it seems to have no effect on the amount that people find me attractive), and I also wear clothes grandparent approved lol.
My mom thinks I'm giving off too much of an approachable vibe, but I'm not really sure how to stop that?
If you need to see my pictures (although I'm not sure how that could help) look at the first ask I posted and I added some.
How do I stop getting approached so often?
What Guys Said 5
Do clown face contouring... but then don't do the finished results bit.
As @Octavius mentioned, try wearing sunglasses and maybe also try to always be around friends. Strangers would feel really intimidated and nervous to approach you while you're in a group compared to if you're just alone.0
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Be on your phone with earbuds on. If they approach you, pretend you didn't hear/notice them.0
Hey, you come here often?0
just be yourself then no one approaches you.0
What Girls Said 5
Probably just a like able person/ vibe. I have chronic b*tch face sooo... Yeah I don't have these issues since people think I'm mean but I'm not lol. My bestfriend has this issue though. Just tell them you're not interested when they approach you and soon it'll be second nature, you won't even notice saying it0
Umm put sunglasses?0
Try adopting unwelcoming body language (crossed arms, no eye contact, crossed legs, stuff like that), and consider wearing more black. As much as I love the color, it does make people seem a little less approachable, as if they want to be left alone.
Sometimes when I'm on my phone, I furrow my brows, frown, and pretend I'm doing something important. People usually won't talk to you if you're doing that, haha.0
Watch your body language, if you look tired or bored guys won't feel comfortable approaching you.0
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