Let’s not kid ourselves here. Looks are always essential initially for people to get attracted to us. Personality, nature etc. comes later. But isn’t it tragic that the one aspect about us, which we have least control over (which is our looks), matter the most in terms of dating and relationships? Of course, there are ways to IMPROVE our looks, but we can’t change the face we are born with. And we never get to choose how we wish to look, from a set of pre-defined templates when we are born.
I know people go on and on about how ‘looks aren’t everything’, but it’s obviously the looks which gets the other person interested in the beginning.
P. S. I’m not considering drastic measures such as plastic surgery, which can significantly alter (not necessarily improve) a person’s looks. That's beyond the scope of this question.
Most Helpful Girl
I absolutely agree! I think it's very tragic, it's only getting worse too, I see all of these girls on instagram doing their make up to take pictures at the gym and go to nice restaurants and sit down just to take a picture, I find this narcissistic society absolutely disgusting and the sad part is that almost everyone is part of it, I'm 24 and refuse to post bikini pictures or selfies of myself and I guess that just makes me a boring person with no life, which is not the case, I just rather experience things in the moment rather than focus on what my pictures look like and then reminisce about it. It has also made the dating game a lot more difficult, I feel like guys have this high expectations of girls looking like the girls on Instagram and anything less in not good enough, it's like they don't see past the reality that most of the pictures are super edited, posed, and highly unrealistic of what most girls look like. I miss the days where dating was about making a good first impression and not swiping left or right being judged solely on looks, we are not fruit at the supermarket to be chosen based on appearance, what's baffling is that most people seem to be ok with it.1
Most Helpful Guy
Yes it is tragic indeed. The "You just have to have confidence" doesn't work for everybody. That may work for average and above on the richter scale. People who are about 4-10 got a higher chance while 3 and below is an uphill battle. But the good thing is I have seen many undesirables have someone so at least its not impossible.0