I need a girlfriend, I thought I would want to stay single after my ex cheated on me but after a year of binge drinking , smoking weed, and flirting around I'm mentally ready to find the right girl for me. I realized this yesterday when I avoided going to a loud house party cause i dont want to deal with girls who were too drunk to remember their own name. Instead I went for a few drinks on my own and let my mind wander and just relaxed and accessed what I really want. I still don't trust women though and I don't know how to really give up my heart if I dont learn to let go and open up to a girl.
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my ex (also my first love) was the first to cheat on me 10 years ago, and it took me many years to trust anyone after that. so trust me when i say i feel your pain~ once you've been betrayed to that extent, it stays in the back of your mind and never really goes away.
i recommend starting slow; date for fun, but don't get serious immediately and let the girl (s) work to earn your trust.
i started with online dating, to keep my options open and just have fun~ i made it clear that i was looking for something casual, but one guy stood out from the others as boyfriend material; we talked online for a month, and our first in-person date was magical. over the next few months, he worked hard to prove himself worthy of my trust and, almost a year later, he's earned it enough that i can silence that little voice in the back of my head.
before that, my main issue is that i kept gravitating toward the wrong guy and never learned from my mistakes until now, . fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.0