He's my dream guy.. Haven't met yet but been talking online for a year. He thinks I am fat (which I know I am) and wants me to lose weight before we meet and I get it. I have tried and I have lost 15 kg's about 30 pounds but I still have quite bit to go and I am worried i will still be fat in may when I am supposed to meet him. He isn't a jerk about it though but sometimes he makes me feel like he will only love the skinny me even though we have spoken for a year and he says he loves me more than anything. I am depressed and so busy with school it's hard to keep up with the weight loss. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Losing weight is easier than you think it is. All you have to do basically confine your diet to a few smaller meals a day and you will see results after a few weeks. For breakfast have some fruit and maybe an egg. For lunch eat a turkey sandwich with some cheese, and a cup of yogurt. For dinner maybe have some chicken and vegetables or rice. All you need to drink is water but milk and juice are good too. That's just some examples, you can find other stuff that will work for you. You don't need to exercise but it helps the process, plus you mentioned you are depressed. Did you know that exercising releases endorphins in your body, which make you happier? Healthy body helps make a healthy mind.
Sometimes tough love is necessary, I'm sure he wants you to be the best you can be. He loves you the way you are but maybe he loves you enough to see that you don't let yourself wither away, many see that as threatening to their happiness but fail to see that maybe if they did change they could be happier. Anyway, I am typing this and taking your word that he is not being mean about it and not bullying you and has good intentions generally.0
Most Helpful Girl
You should be careful about getting too attached to someone you have yet to meet in person. It can be way different than what you imagine. Happened to my friend and they decided they weren't meant for each other after talking for a year.
Good job on the 30 pounds! It sounds like he cares about your health and the way you look. If you agree with him, I'd say continue to keep up with the weight loss. Try to make time for it, get a exercise buddy to motivate you, make a food diary, and create a strict schedule. All up to you of course :) Think about the end results. I like looking at pictures online of weight loss to help motivate me.0