I noticed when a girl has a problem with a guy or a bad relationship the answer by some men and women seem to be to get a good guy
if someone is having an issue why shouldn't they fix the issue instead of trying to fill in the void
especially men who answer they usually say "it's because you are dating douchebags, get a good guy"
why don't men usually answer to fix the problem instead of being so quick to suggest a guy?
I'm talking about a breakup not staying!
I'm not talking about fixing the bad guy I'm asking why do people who give advice always say get another guy after someone experiences a horrible breakup? Why is the solution to get another guy If she is recovering from a bad break up with a guy who treated her like shit?
Most women aren't going to go for a nice guy either way if they were given the advise lol because they're too emotionally invested in the "bad" guy and most guys would imagine themselves being the nice guy that she should get so they unconsciously say get a nice guy which probably means oh get with me I'm nice xD
Well what fix are you hoping for, exactly? Would you rather they recommend you get counselling or therapy? If the damage has already been done, what can a man feasibly suggest to you that YOU think would fix whatever psyche damage you've experienced from the bad relationship?
If you think men are the issue then just stay out of relationships altogether for a while.
Are you talking about fixing the problem as in fixing the bad guy so that he can be a good guy, or fixing your attitude so you don't care how he mistreats you anymore, you're simply with him and that's it.
Either way, the answer is, because it's a good advice to dump the douchebag and get a good guy. Fixing him is unrealistic, and starting not to care anymore is degrading.
Trust me, it's really hard to "fix" someone. You can't change the way someone acts if they don't want to change in the first place. What else would you suggest to someone who's dating a guy with drinking and violence problems? If they like the booze, they ain't gonna give it up.