I think you are normal. A lot of the pathetic men around will say nonsense like "they only like hot guys" or "if its staring from a hot guy it is sexy, if from anyone else its creepy" or whatever. These are just excuses they use to justify their own inadequacy and their lack of personal skills.
Granted there does seem to be a percentage of girls who are do play into the body things, you do seem to be quite normal.
Sure, women are totally attracted to a man from his personality a good portion of a time. No one is denying that. You know what breeds SEXUAL attraction though? Looks. Women care about looks sexually (like men) because personality doesn't mean much in determining if your partner can produce healthy offspring. That's why I see girls adoring shirtless, super cut guys all the time. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, men do this with women, but the point is that *looks matter to women too*.
This is why a lot of guys who date or get married to "personality" loving women end up burnt. After a while, she can't enjoy having sex with him since his looks aren't what she wants or sometimes even tolerates, even though that personality was golden. That's why you'll see many guys ask, "Why has she stopped intimacy?" over and over again.
There is no "either/or" with attraction. There are elements of both. You can't have a healthy intimate relationship if one is there but the other isn't. Attraction to only personality and not at all looks is what we call "friends". Attraction to only looks and not personality are what we call "hook-ups". It is not a switch, it's a varying lever. If you're mostly attracted to personality, you're mostly attracted to personality, but looks still matter a fraction, and vise versa.
Because if you choose to be in a mutually exclusive devoted relationship with one another, then that includes sexual exclusivity, in which case you'll probably want to be physically attracted or otherwise you'll claim to have a headache every day and your partner will get annoyed and break up with you and find someone else who actually is attracted to them.
Because that's how us men want our opposite partner usually when the opposite gender has a certain preference that's what they expect the opposite gender to want to the same as them. Just like how women expect men to have height preferences and be physically attracted to height.
Because pretty much anyone who claims that looks don't matter is only saying it to avoid being 'judged' for being 'shallow'. You can deny how physical attraction works all you like, it won't make true.
I understand what you are saying. I was with a man I had no physical attraction to ( he was overweight, and wasn't very good looking) but yet his personality was beautiful and he knew how to get me off in bed. Looks are not everything.
Well, you need to be physically attracted enough to begin with and then the rest can come later. Women in general are a lot more forgiving of a male appearance. But then again, it also comes down to whether we are talking relationships or pure sexual experience. In the latter, physical attraction carries more weight.
I'm the same way. His abs aren't going to give me hope when I'm doubting myself; a stack of his cash won't hold me at night. I don't care about wealth or looks. It's all in how he treats me, and how he makes me feel.
Because it's dependent on the person, and generally speaking, people are more familiar with those who are driven by physical attraction. It's extremely common so it makes those who don't require physical attraction seem less common.
I'm calling bullshit. I'd like to see you stay in a sexual relationship with someone who you don't find physically attractive.
Personality is a huge part of attraction, yes. But it doesn't make up the entire composition. The physical attraction needs to there too. I'm not saying every guy in a relationship has to be a male model, but something has to be physically attractive to the girl.
i know right! i date a deaf guy who couldn't talk. Sammy. i knew sign language so i was his only friend. he was really sweet. he would bring flowers into school and buy me lunch, anything i wanted. one day he proposed. I, of course, said yes. my friends said i was in year 9 and he wasn't hot at all and i should date a guy who could talk, i stopped being friends with them
Because they have a hard time understanding that not everyone wants a hot guy with a shit personality. Some of us can find someone sexually attractive just on personality alone. Sure, you can put a hot guy in front of us and we'd admit to him being good looking, but that doesn't mean we find him sexually attractive in any sort of way. :T
Well even then, you can still be physically attracted to them if you're in love. if you love them for their personality it will make them physically appealing. that's why there is a condition where a sense of humor or intelligence can be a turn on for some people.
Lots of variety from one human to the next, but I need to be physically attracted to a man to be interested in dating him. I don't care if he fits society's definition of what's supposed to be attractive, but he has to be attractive to me. So maybe people assume women need to be physically attracted to a man 'cause they know lots of women like me.
Looks aren't everything. But they certainly are a whole lot. I couldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to
I have a hard time believing this. I believe you're attracted to a persons personality, but just like everyone else it was their looks that drew you in. I guarantee you wouldn't go for an ugly guy with a good personality. You wouldn't bother to get to know an ugly guys personality unless you knew each other for a while. Even then you'd end up just being friends. There has to be sexual attraction for a relationship.
When you say you care about personality, you mean you just don't want a hot guy who is an asshole. You'll take the hot guy who is nice.
I have the same problem as you. Why am I calling it a problem? Because it's easier to find someone attractive, rather than to find someone who has the qualities you're looking for in a human-being.
I'm a personality woman as well but if I am not attracted to at least one physical trait of theirs then I will not pursue them. Physical attraction is the very last thing I look for but its still there. I dated someone who I found attractive due to his personality but he was not attractive physically at all. His appearance was kind of ugly. Needless to say, it didn't last long. I had no sexual desire because his appearance turned me off.
Well it depends on the person. Some people don't care about looks at all, some care only a little, and some care only about looks. To me, it's more like 30% looks and 70% personality. I wouldn't mind dating a guy who looks slightly below average if he has a great personality.
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