I've had quite a few failed relationships. Usually the guys were constantly messaging me immediately.
Now I am dating someone new. He treats me very nice and is a big gentleman. It's only been a few weeks. He messaged me almost every day, now pretty much every day. But he only sends a few texts a day, not back and forth flirting all day long. However he plans nice dates and is amazing. He has a lot more manners than the other guys. He told me he is a man of few words.
It seemed like the men who were blowing up my phone were fake. They just wanted to build quick intimacy.
Is it true that men who blow up your phone all the time right away are just playing? My new guy seems sincere.
Most Helpful Guy
The only way you'll know a dude is sincere is by having face-time with him, hanging out with him, and seeing if you two connect. Not simply on a romantic or sexual level, but on an intimate level. If you two can hold a conversation about anything other than yourself, himself, your relationship, or your respective jobs and families, then you likely have someone worth keeping around.
Also, for guys, texting can be a chore due to the fact that a phone is almost exclusively used for work and/or college. We associate it with such after a given time. But we'll make the effort if the one we're texting is someone we care about. That said, sometimes you just have something you want to share a laugh about.
A good example of both the former and the latter: My ex and I used to laugh and joke about playing GTA V, and hell, we both used to play it together when we got off work. She also had this habit of texting me weird pictures from 4chan, and we used to joke about the off-color humor implied therein. That's the sort of thing that comes with intimacy, having those weird moments that aren't simply texting/saying "I wuv you so much" back and forth.0
Most Helpful Girl
Yup, that's exactly what I found too! The guys that are constantly blowing up your phone in the beginning are just blowing hot air. Then once the excitement wears off, they disappear!
I think if you are getting good vibes from this guy, then it's probably a better situation.
But some guys do like texting more. I think you need to base your opinion on the guys actions versus words. If he is texting you that he misses you, yet won't come to see you ever, then that's a red flag. If the guy is messaging you, but won't set up a date, red flag...
Go with your gut! It's usually not wrong! :)0