I won't date a guy who drinks alcohol, smokes tobacco OR weed, or does any other drug. I like my man to be HEALTHY. Plus, I like to work out and people who partake in the above substances are lazy. I also diet and this would clearly ruin my diet and it proves they don't care about their diet.
People tell me I'm "shallow" all the time. Why? I'm shallow because I want a guy to live a healthy lifestyle? Go ahead and have fun killing yourself.
- Yes, you're shallowVote A
- No, not at all! You want a guy who isn't a lazy, unhealthy slobVote B
Most Helpful Guy
Well let's look at Merriam-Webster's Dictionary's definition of "Shallow", (in terms of DATING.)
"Shallow (adj) not caring about or involving serious or important things."
I don't see how someone else's health is important in terms of DATING. You can be completely compatible with someone who is unhealthy and be completely incompatible with someone who is healthy. The two are completely unrelated.
I can see your point of view here, since these are lifestyle choices but you're assuming just because someone does one of the following they're automatically "unhealthy" or "lazy." It depends on how frequent, and even then there are exceptions.
My uncle is an exception. He has no health problems at all at the age of 57. He's been smoking cigarettes every day since he was a kid, he drinks alcohol almost every day, he's done his share of drugs, yet, no health problems (rare exception but it does happen.)
You assume so much. You sound narrow-minded (and this is coming from someone completely sober on all counts.)1
Most Helpful Girl
There is nothing shallow about wanting someone who shares the same values as you. Actually, it's really selfish to date people whose values don't align and then try to change them...0