I was dating a guy 13 years my senior, the first time I went to his house (the fourth date) he asked me to peg out his washing whilst he had a bath, I did it... When I came in the house he was sat smoking. I'd spend every weekend there and every time he'd get me to do his chores. I was wearing my new dress and heels and I had to clean his van with him, I had to weed his garden and when I complained of period pains, he moaned at me and said that I pull my face whenever he asks me to do anything?
We'd only just met, there was no romance, I didn't feel special but I lack confidence due to a violent ex so i'd believe him when he said I should be doing things for him... when he came to mine I never asked him to do my chores, things were broken yet I didn't ask him to fix them. I'd get treats in he liked and cook him food yet when we were at his house he'd ask me what is for tea?
I'd lend him money even though he's 40, i'd post him treats through the week and buy him gifts yet he never did. He gave a gift i bought him to his brother then called me negative because I said it hurt me. He'd twist things around saying i'm the negative one and it's always all about me. I started to believe this so stayed with him. I asked to go to the zoo for my birthday and he moaned about £15 entrance fee (I had said i'll pay for me)
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I really don't think 1950's house wives were this way. What you have my dear is an opportunist, someone who is preying on your weakness and your low self-esteem. He's using you because he's a crappy person. You've just traded one abusive relationship for the other. You need to leave him and focus on yourself. You don't need a relationship right now because it's clear you don't know what a healthy one looks like. Spend how ever long it takes to be alone and learn to love yourself and have some dignity. Get some back bone, you're allowing yourself to be a walking doormat.3
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