I was sleeping in the house of my boyfriend and we started to drink. I was not so drunk because I have a good resistance to alcohol but I don't know... We had the stupid idea to play truth or dare and that was when the awful happened.
He said hurtful things to me and I know he was drunk but now I can't get out of my head all that he said to me... I think he doesn't remember so I don't know if I should raise the issue.
'Drunken words are sober thoughts' - I do believe in that somewhat that the mind can't filter out the truth as well as when you are sober so I would pay attention to what's been said. Depends if you can forgive what he said and decipher the meaning behind the words.
It's more likely for a drunk to say something truthful that they wouldn't have said otherwise. But it's not reliable. I lived with an alcoholic for many years. Some of the stuff that came out of her mouth was total BS. It didn't even come close to reality. She didn't remember it either.
It may be truth. It may be false. t may be half-truth. It could be anything.
People react very differently to alcohol. So there is no fixed answer about how anyone acts when drunk. It's entirely individual.
I believe he said what he really thought. And now he'll probably say he won't remember, but that's bullshit. I always remember every single event even when I can't walk anymore. I am sorry you had to hear that. Alcohol removes the filter that prevents you from saying stuff you would regret. It doesn't make you lie or forget.
Alcohol is disinhibiting, so yes, drunk people tell the truth. It maybe a truth they wouldn't speak if sober, but whatever they tell you probably reflects their true feelings. "I was drunk" is a very poor excuse. My dating policy was to drop anyone with an alcohol problem -- occasionally hav
well no you won't be throwing facts at people but drunk people say what sober people are afraid to say but it doesn't mean its true it means that you drunk boyfriend have been telling you that if you buy pears you can fly , or if you wear glasses you can fire laser , a normal person wouldn't say that but it doesn't make it true.
Alcohol turns off the part of your brain responsible for inhibition control. Therefore, drunks are more free with how they act and what they say. If a drunk is going to lie, he's still going to lie. If he's going to tell the truth, he's still going to tell the truth. Alcohol is an on/off switch but not for truth v. lies or nonviolent v. violent.
It can help get past their defenses but they don't always tell the truth. And it depends how drunk. The key word here is that it makes you "less inhibited". It isn't truth serum. I've been fairly drunk and wanted to say things i wouldn't otherwise say. It doesn't mean that i would lose all sense of tact though if i thought i was guarding a secret important enough.
It's hard to say my dad was a alcoholic in his earlier years he would tell me things that he said the night before when he was drunk so it's hard to say and they were the truth cause i was there to witness.
when someone is drunk they will tell you things they would never say otherwise. maybe a harsh truth they would otherwise be too afraid to say. so, from experience, drunks do tell the truth. Like small children, they don't have a filter.
Do raise the issue, even if he doesn't remember (or says he doesn't) there is definitely some truth to what he said. Time to have an honest conversation and fixing the issues you two have.
I don t know what he said but i think you should bring it up and see how he reacts. Holding things back will only make the communication weaker between you guys. And you know what happens in a relationship with lack of communication...
you need to bring it up and tell him how you feel. if he really feels the way he seemed as he was drunk, maybe he is just leading you on. i would do it now before it is too late and you become so in love you feel as if you can't live without him.