There's this girl that I think is cute and I would like to get to know her and potentially date her. She seems like a cool girl. I'm just not sure if I should based purely on age. Our birthdays are about a week from each other (mine comes first). She's turning 19 and I'm turning 23. I just don't know if I should pursue her. I want to get married in the next 2-3 years. I'm not looking to date just to date or mess around. She's only gonna be 21 at that time and probably still gonna be in college while I'll be 25 so I don't even know how she or her parents would feel about marriage at that age. What's your guys opinions on this? I don't want to date for a little bit and then break up and start over again. I want to have kids by the time I'm 27. I'm a very much family oriented guy and love kids. I know some of you might say I'm thinking too far ahead but these are things I think about. Like I said I have zero interest in just dating to date or messing around. I want to get married and have a family so when it comes to a girl, there's a lot of qualities and things I consider before going ahead with that decision to commit to something with her based on those reasons. I'll be posting a poll but I'd appreciate some legit reason for why I should or why I shouldn't pursue her.
- yes pursue her77% (10)75% (3)76% (13)Vote
- no don't pursue her23% (3)25% (1)24% (4)Vote
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I think you should slow down
While your intentions are good
Who said this girl wanted to be tied down at 21? maybe she wants to continue graduate school or move elsewhere..
Unless your from a different culture and this type of thing is "the norm" I think you should pursue her if you're willing to accept the risk that it may not work
Especially with her being in college still, distance when you graduate and she's still there
she can still potentially meet guys, someone she really likes rather than someone who's trying to marry her off right away
Have you really thought this out? Or do you plan to live at college with her until she graduates because otherwise this whole idea is not seeming well
2-3 years is a long time to be under such odd circumstances, a year maybe that's fine but 2-3 is pushing it1