Me and my boyfriend have nearly been going out for a month (he's 18 and I'm 17) and that might not seem like a while but we're really close so. Well basically he was at this other girl's formal (prom) because she'd asked him as just friends before we were going out. On the bus to the afterparty place they kissed, and he completely does not remember it all. He only found out when she told him yesterday and he still doesn't remember it, yet she remembers it. He thinks that he should have made it clearer the fact that he had a girlfriend, because we're both pretty sure she knew. Anyway he feels AWFUL about it, and literally told me straight after he found out, he actually didn't sleep last night and didn't go to school today because he just felt so guilty. He told me that he literally had absolutely no intentions whatsoever of doing that and he has literally no idea what happened, he kept apologising and saying that he's deeply sorry from the bottom of his heart, then gave me time last night to work it out. I've agreed to work it out with him and we're still together, but was this actually proper cheating. And what are the chances he could do it again?
Most Helpful Guy
completely up to you. the fact that he came to you and told you suggests that he is truly sorry and it was a mistake
the concern to me would be that he drinks to the point of doing things that are so far out of character. It would make me worry any time I knew he was going to go out drinking what he might do (cheating or something else)
you can forgive and move on with things but I think the drinking should be a topic of discussion if you choose to forgive his cheating0
Most Helpful Girl
That was definitely 'proper cheating'. Cheating is the act itself, where he failed to remain faithful to you by kissing this other girl. Whatever excuses the individual gives are to shift the blame or whatever are irrelevant. I'd look into why he didn't remember it in the first place, as if he was a deer caught in headlights.
Chances he'd do it again? Hard to say if it's likely or not, but just know that if you do stay with him and it happens again, you weren't already warned.0