I mean obviously he wants sex, but is it because he's at least attracted to you? Finds you stunning looking? Like they don't want a relationship, they just want sex, that's obvious but do they even think of you as a friend or think you're attractive? Or would a guy use any girl. I never got this
Here's more info: Known him since jr high. He lost his virginity to me back then. We spoke on the phone and stuff but he was the "quiet" "nerdy" type. Anyway, throughout the years he'll reach out on Facebook and ask how in doing. We lived our separate lives though and we've met up once in a blue. One time we had sex the other time we just hung out but we didn't continue seeing eachother. It's like he's just go missing and he'd come out of the blue again
So this happened a couple of times, and sometimes I'd go a year or so without speaking with him. So in total we've known eachother for about 13 years. Though, we've never really spent that much time hanging out until this summer. he contacted me on FB and I text him on his phone and we just started hanging out from there. We'd hangout have sex, and then he didn't call or text much afterwards. He would but every few days. I didn't like that and told him we needed to move on as I didn't want it to
You aren't going to even consider having sex with someone you aren't attracted to. Every guy attracted to the girl he's focused on will find something, anything, about the girl that is "stunning" to him. If a guy is going after you only for sex, you'll definitely know within a couple days to a couple weeks if you are seeing him regularly.
That will, of course, be different if you are sleeping with him right off the bat. This is why mothers tell their daughters to play "hard to get," to weed out those who're only looking for a good time and nothing more.
Most guys who use a girl for sex definitely find her attractive physically, and they might also find her to be fun and sexually exciting.
Yes, there are a few desperate guys who will bang absolutely anything that stands still long enough, but they are the exception. Average guys only want to bang girls they find attractive - she doesn't have to be a 9 or 10, but she can't be a 2 or 3 either, and usually, it's girls the guy finds "better than average."
But guys also can separate sex from love/romance/emotional connections in a way that most women can't, and most women struggle to truly understand and accept that men CAN and DO do this, even if they know it intellectually - just as men are often confused why women are "always trying to turn sex into a relationship" or "why women can't just be happy with sex." It's hard to accept that other people think totally differently than you do - but if you don't accept that as being true, you'll always make bad assumptions based on your misunderstanding of their thinking.
If a girl offers sex on a plate, no guy is going to refuse, unless the girl is really unsuitable for some reason. I can never understand this idea of being a "fuckbuddy". Is sex really that worthless that it can be given away just like that?
As far as I can tell, there doesn't have to be any attraction either emotional or physical. It's only sexual.
If you're looking for a definitive answer from us, don't, because you'll never get it. If it really bothers you, sit him down and talk about it. I know confrontation can be scary but it's better than being in the state that you are of having unanswered questions. There's a large variety of reasons why he'd only be using you for sex (if you're in fact certain that's what he's doing). He could be avoiding a relationship, find you physically attractive but not relationship type, just be sex deprived, wanting to have a relationship but not knowing how to express himself... I can go on all night. Point is, talk to him.
I'm guessing he would find you attractive. As for his reasons, he might feel lonely or nostalgic and remember good memories with you. He may view you as a friend or it may have been more about the sex. I guess it really depends on how distant you guys became. It sounds like you were doing the initiating and he was responding. In this case I think he should be aware that he can either keep in contact he shouldn't be expecting a response.
Because they can. I mean, they do it if the girl is attractive enough and she lets them. Not all men are like that, i don't include myself in that group, but the ones that use girls for sex is because they can.
it means nothing, because the idea of being "used" for something is stupid. you're not a tool, you're a sentient human being, and no one is debating that, least of all him. its sex, not rape--you're both consenting adults, participating in something that need not be defined outside of the context of itself, and its also an act that is inherently pleasurable, so complaining about being used for sex is like complaining about being used for eating ice cream, its fucking stupid, so what, maybe you're not satisfied with a single scoop of vanilla ice cream, maybe you want the whipped cream and a cherry on top too, but its stupid and entitled to smack that out of someones hand and demand more like they're somehow using you for it. if you want more out of your relationship maybe ask politely and at least appreciate what you got--eat your dessert before you demand more dessert
a woman lived with me and she paid her rent in sex. No feelings at all these just smooth skin and a nice enough body. Was there whenever I wanted the sex. Wouldn't take her any where, introduced her to very few people and was in love with another woman at the time.
It means this: on one hand, you are getting lucky. That's a good thing, generally speaking. Sex tends to make people happy. On the other hand, you clearly feel used. Sex that makes you feel used is never sex as it should be. They call it 'making love' because the very act of it should make you feel loved--regardless of whether you are IN love with your partner or not. If you are intimate enough with a man to sleep with him, you are intimate enough to tell him what you want. Just do it in a way that lets him know that you appreciate him as a lover.
guys don't care how pretty you are, when they use you for sex they are literally just using you. they could care less about who you are as a person or how you look. a guy would use almost ANY girl. they say they wouldn't but the majority of fuckboys would without a doubt.
You're an object to him. You're a sex toy. Probably a pretty one in his eyes. But nothing more.
He finds you sexually appealing
It means they don't respect you and I think that most guys use women who they find unattractive for sex. I'm not saying they think she's ugly but if she's not their type they will use her for sex and date girls still.