I just started seeing this girl and honestly, out of all women i've ever been with, she's the first one that really has caught my eye. she's beautiful, funny, smart, and has her shit together. But she's joining the military. I've never been with someone i've clicked so well with so this sucks. Were not totally sure when she will be leaving. But she's taking her tests, and she's really serious about it.
Should i just leave? I really dont want to.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think you should leave. Especially after the way you describe how you feel. Support her, be with her while she's here and then see how the ldr goes. Good luck!1
Most Helpful Guy
Just because they are joining the military doesn't mean they are going to be off on deployments all the time. During the 9 or so weeks of basic (depending on what branch) there will be a communication blackout. After she will have like a few days or more (sometimes less depends on the MOS) of leave before going to AIT, unless she is OSUT. During that time, she will have the ability to text, Skype, call, email, etc. However, after all of the training she is going to get stationed somewhere. 90% change in America, unless she requests an overseas station, whereby she will be free to pursue her relationship with you. Its not the end of the world, or relationship just because someone is joining the military.
I mean, I do know people that have maintained relationships through the military process so I know it works. I also know people who have decided it doesn't work. I, however, hope that my girlfriend would be able to stay with me when I go off to the military.0