Like, today myself and this guy (we're both school teachers) took our classes on a field trip.
It came to lunch time and we ended up having to sit on some gravel that was he covered in small stones to eat because nowhere else was free.
Anyway, I sat down and he took off his hoody and offered it to me to sit on. He folded it up and handed it to me then jokingly said 'don't be getting it dirty miss reilly!'
I just thought this was so kind of him, since I could easily have taken my own jumper off and sat on it.
What at do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
The only point of doing anything is to get a return. The return, for him, could have simply been stroking his own ego, "I am a kind person, so I do kind things." Or, it could have been a prevention of negative perception of himself, "If I don't give her my jacket, then am I a bad person? What would I be if I didn't be chivalrous to a lady?"
The statement was, "I will sacrifice for you. I will put your comfort before my own. So that eventually, maybe you'll fuck me."
End note: chivalry means you are weak and need to be protected and cared for. Like a dog. Personally, as a man, I don't treat women like they're weak and need to be protected and coddled. I don't presume superiority over them. Which is exactly what women fought for. So, I don't treat any women chivalrously. I treat people respectfully. And that means keeping my own damn jacket, because who gives a fuck about gravel? Just me, of course. And that is why I'm never getting laid again.0
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Most Helpful Girl
No. The women who are important get special treatment that no one else does, but everyone else gets the basics. My boyfriend holds doors for everyone male or female and he offers a helping hand. If someone drops something he'd pick it up or if they look like they're struggling he'll offer to assist. He's just a nice person and feels like it's the right thing to do, but if he does those things for me I know it's for an entirely different reason than anyone else.1