The only point of doing anything is to get a return. The return, for him, could have simply been stroking his own ego, "I am a kind person, so I do kind things." Or, it could have been a prevention of negative perception of himself, "If I don't give her my jacket, then am I a bad person? What would I be if I didn't be chivalrous to a lady?"
The statement was, "I will sacrifice for you. I will put your comfort before my own. So that eventually, maybe you'll fuck me."
End note: chivalry means you are weak and need to be protected and cared for. Like a dog. Personally, as a man, I don't treat women like they're weak and need to be protected and coddled. I don't presume superiority over them. Which is exactly what women fought for. So, I don't treat any women chivalrously. I treat people respectfully. And that means keeping my own damn jacket, because who gives a fuck about gravel? Just me, of course. And that is why I'm never getting laid again.
No. The women who are important get special treatment that no one else does, but everyone else gets the basics. My boyfriend holds doors for everyone male or female and he offers a helping hand. If someone drops something he'd pick it up or if they look like they're struggling he'll offer to assist. He's just a nice person and feels like it's the right thing to do, but if he does those things for me I know it's for an entirely different reason than anyone else.
That was nice of him and i would of done the same thing, he places females first which it should be at least on my part... Me and this girl was just friends we walked down to the store well coming home she was real cold so i put my arm around her and kept her warm to we got home but we didn't have far to walk but if she wanted to use my jacket sure i would of took it off and let her borrow it to keep warm If i saw you on the street and you was cold i would offer my jacket to you too , yes some of us do it when we like a girl but not necessary in all cases , I like acts of kindness i don't want the girl think I'm coming on to her and scaring her away cause i like to say i got some morals.
Not all guys would do this even for a girl they like. It does seem to be a fading trait that most of the younger generation see as being weak. I was born in a generation where it flourished, so it's in my DNA
Mostly to women we like. Though, we tend to be around women we like skmply because it's better than be around women we hate. Don't read too much jnto this though. He was just being kind to you. He does appreciate you, but that doesn't mean he's overly into you. He would probably be open to it if you were to pursue him. He does show empathy towards you.
Well, the behaviour and that line he said make me think he likes you. Chivalrous men will usually let any woman in the bus before they get in, or will hold a door open for a woman, even if they don't like her; that case you mention is very particular, though, and he obviously did that for you, specifically.
People do it for all sorts of reasons (manners, professional demeanor, score brownie points with your boss) but it is statistically proven that people will make more of an effort if there is an attraction.
Nope. I grew up in Alabama and although a lot of crap down here is backwards and dumb it's pretty common to still see chivalry. I open doors for everyone. I'll give my umbrella to almost anyone that seems like they need it. I've let people use my jackets for stuff and ran through rain to bring people's car around. To me it's nothing special it's just something that's easy and free to do that makes people's day better and it makes me feel good. I wouldn't read to far into it. But don't discount it either. Not many people are that nice and there's definetly no harm in trying to date this guy if you like him. You can never really know until you try
I'm not chivalrous to anyone for any reason. ALWAYS ends up negative if I do.
I try to be as nice to women as I possibly can, whether I LIKE them or not. It's only civil
They are "extra" chivalrous to a person they like, and there are guys who are kind to anyone.
It'll differ from guy to guy. I'm sure some of them only do it for women they're interest in, some to all women. I disagree with both cases. Why can't everyone just be 'chivalrous' to each other? A guy to any woman, to another guy, and women to anyone as well?
I always hold the door open for anyone. If I'm out with my boyfriend and he's a bit under-dressed when it gets chilly, I'll ask him if he wants my jacket. It's just a matter of courtesy and concern for other's well being, regardless of gender or whether they're disabled, elderly, or fully able. I really don't understand the flawed logic of 'women first', and to hell with the men. Respect and good treatment should go both ways.. feministmenagerie.files.wordpress.com/.../7pc8yui.jpg