When I was a kid there was no screaming in the store, I knew better, if I even so much as muttered a complaint a got a simple look from the old man to let me know I had done wrong, but occasionally I would cross the line to the point I would get spanked or slapped, and so many over zealous mommie types say that leads to mental disorders and all that, well the only thing I suffer from is a condition called respect towards those who deserve it, and the ability to tell when someone doesn't deserve it. I'm not saying everyone is like this but people don't like to give consequences to kids anymore
Spanks are a joke. I got hit with anything from spoons to cable wires. I deserved it most times but it thought me the importance of respect and obedience towards our elders. Now there are some who would call that abuse and I have seen and heard some cases of children being hit to death and lit a fire.. (God bless their souls). Them parents just crazy.. but a few spanks , slaps etc shouldn't hurt. The main thing here is training the children to grow up in a suitable manner. Not to be rude or own way.
Because society is too sensitive. I was pretty much never spanked but I know for a fact that, if need be, I'll do it as a last resort when/if I have kids. The only reason I wasn't spanked because I was that type of well behaved kid but those two or three times I actually was spanked, I got the same condition you have, dude.
That's how I was raised by my father and as a grown up, disagree with it. By hitting or slapping a child, that's showing that you have to rely on using your hands or an object to get your points across. In addition, it's not really teaching you the real reason why behavior was wrong other than ''but I'm gonna get slapped/spanked''.
For instance, I would understand lying is wrong because in the end the people that care about you will get disappointed and you would have to live with your conscious that you lied rather than ''oh lying it's wrong because I'm gonna get hit and better watch out''.
I believe you can still discipline without the needing to hit. This is where some people confuse the terms. Discipline does not necessarily mean spanking.
I'd rather discipline my child in another way that doesn't involve physically hurting them. If your kid is too young to understand why their behaviour is wrong, then they're too young to understand why you're hitting them.
I don't agree with hitting kids, no matter the reason. It'll teach them to obey, sure, but it'll also teach them to fear you. You don't want your kids to fear you because when people are afraid they usually lash out later on in life.
Well, domestic violence is illegal. It only makes sense to extent it to your children too.
I don't like the whole bending on knees and spanking thing.
That just looks weird and the kids might feel humiliated.
And slapping on the face is an aboslute no.
Maybe on their arms if they really cross the line.
My parents used the hitting on the arm thing , etc.
I don't know if it did me any good.
Every time they did that, I only felt more angry. (Temporary) That made me wanna rebel but of course I didn't.
But it also made me not be so close to them.
When the kids are young/new born, parents have full control over them. If they do the right things, and use that control properly, physical discipline would be the last resort needed to use when the kids grow a little older.
when you were a kid there was no screaming in stores? well I'm 13 years older than you and remember kids screaming in stores
I think that spanking has been proven to be a less effective method of behavior modification than alternatives. I guess I shouldn't say I think it's been proven because it has. I'm not entirely anti-spanking but if there are better methods of behavior mod then shouldn't we employ them