Me and my girlfriend got into a bad argument (but ok now). I grabbed/squeezed her by the wrist and was wondering if that would be considered abuse?

[Anonymous]

I never act like this and am not abusive at all. 4 days ago me and my girlfriend got into a very heated argument and she kept hitting me on the arm so i squeezed her wrist until she said "ouch, stop". I didn't do anythign else.

We're fine now and made up but i was just wondering cause when i told my friend he said i did not abuse her anyway, while another friend told me i shouldn't have done that.

What is your opinion?

[Prettygurl12]

Pft. I'd say no. Personally.

LEGALLY, if she were to call the police and have them show up, an arrest HAS to be made. In the US, with domestic violence, police officers MUST make an arrest. It is a 93 day misdemeanor. Due to the gravity of a domestic violence situation, an arrest has to be made.

It's not, however, always the man who gets arrested. There have been cases where the woman has started it, then called the cops when the man retaliated/restrained her, and then got arrested for starting it in the first place. Both parties have also gotten arrested.

No cop worth his salt would arrest you for restraining her blows though. The officer would arrest her.

I would advise that you end your relationship regardless. She sounds like a loose cannon.

[mackrose]

Don't ever grab a female in an argument unless you really need to defend yourself (doesn't sound like her hitting you on the arm was her beating the crap out of you) - just to keep yourself safe because she can easily go tell the police you abused her and I've seen a lot of buddies go down for things like this. its not fair- but some females are crazy. I wouldn't risk it. you didn't abuse her though hun.

[MelbaB]

Not really. You were stopping her from hitting you.

[RasmusAiken]

Legally it's abuse if it left a mark to show the authorities. You prolly should notta done that.

[Asker]

that is what one of my friend said. Didn't leave a mark or anything

[selfishstars]

She was hitting you---that's abusive.

[Anonymous]

No it's one thing if you hit her back honestly she just need to calm down

[OrdinaryGentleman]

She hit you, no that is not a problem

[NotMyUsername15]

No, it's not.

[Anonymous]

That all sounds unhealthy. Why does she hit you?