There's this girl in one of my classes. She seems really shy when it comes to interacting with people but incredibly confident when it comes to her studies. I find her to be quite interesting and would like to know more about her. The problem is she rushes into class right before it starts and runs out as soon as it ends so I don't really have a chance to converse with her. I've noticed that I think about her when she isn't around and I barely know her so it's strange and new to me lol
What would be the best way to pull her aside so to speak and start interacting with her? Maybe shy women on G@G could shed some light on this because I've always been more into bold women who are stellar conversationalists. It's different coming at it from the other side and I lack experience with it.
Thanks in advance for your advice :)
Apparently she uses different parking lots. Anyway I won't make the same mistake Thursday! Thanks for everyone's help.
Most Helpful Girl
well I'm not a shy woman but i guess i can help in that sometimes i just duck in and out of class as well.
u might want to take a seat next to her one session. u dont even have to speak to her at that point. just make some kind of gesture that makes her feel she isn't some kind of geek or invisible person that no one notices. many shy girls tend to feel that way. a simple "hi, can i sit here?" is fine.
as soon as the class is over, you'll b right next to her, if i were u id make a comment about the class itself. "that was pretty interesting/boring" or something. whatever u come up with. quickly followed by "sorry i didn't get your name. I'm..." *extend handshake*. whatever her reply is, leave it there for the first interaction. obviously this is just a rough scenario lol.
anyway, if there's one thing u take away from this, it's that shy girls need time, so youd have to be pretty persistent if u really wanna know more about her, because chances r, there's something quite wonderful hiding beneath the shyness. always is.3
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Most Helpful Guy
I notice people tend to stay in the same seats in my college classes... so if she's one of those people just start sitting next to her and strike up a conversation.
You say she's really confident with her studies so try talking to her about something related to school (what she wants to do career wise/ a test coming up etc)... if she's comfortable with that topic, she's more likely to warm up to you over time. As time goes by you start joking, asking about her day or plans for the weekend... simple things... and even invite her to study with you one of those days.2