There is this girl that I have mixed feelings for, I can't decide whether or not I like her, and she really really likes me, I have known since the day I met her that she likes me. Right now I am quite tired of asking women out, I am not good at it (even if I know the girl likes me), I always second guess myself, and I just have a horrible time leading up to and after asking her out, even if she says yes; so I dont feel like asking, especially since I dont know how I feel about this girl. I decided that if she was willing to ask me out, then I would date her, but I am not going to spend the time and energy trying to ask her out (and it takes me a lot of energy to ask women out because I am so bad at it). So far she has been trying to get me to ask her, by giving ever more blatant hints that she likes me. I already know she likes me, I have known for about 3 months, but I guess she thinks I am oblivious to it because she keeps hinting. She has suggested we "go to the movies" a couple times and I expressed interest in seeing those movies, but she didn't ask me out. I dont really care either way, but she keeps hinting at me and its kind of getting on my nerves since I already know she is into me. I am really against the stereotype of men asking women out so I am going to make this girl ask me out, and experience what I had to go through for years, its not a punishment for being a girl, its just that I dont know how I feel about her, and I kind of like a couple other girls, but if she asks me out I will say yes, because that shows she likes me enough to go out of her comfort zone. My friends are calling me a d-ck for leading this girl on and not asking her out, but I have agreed that I will say yes if she asks me out, its not like I am shutting her down, I am just trying to guage how much she really likes me, and since I am done asking women out I am certainly not goign to do it unless I really really like the girl.
Most Helpful Girl
Prepare to be a very, very lonely boy/man.
Step up, be a man and ask her out or tell her you are not interested so she can focus her attentions on someone worthwhile. I'm sure you also expect colleges to reach out to you without applying or jobs to reach out and tell you they want you without applying as well. just because you are against the stereotype of men asking women out doesn't mean the world will suddenly change so you can feel more comfortable.2
Most Helpful Guy
It's not wrong but it's kind of lame. But i suppose the reason you haven't asked is because you aren't really sure if you want to, so it makes sense. Try to make your mind up because the situation probably sucks on her end.0