Okay so.. I met this guy online when I had an online Skype account. I was very self conscious at that time so I would use another girls profile picture. But I never made serious profiles like fb, twitter, or instagram. It was just on Skype... and I don't know why I did it. Its so embarrassing to think about it now. I wanted to stop but I made some really good friends. One of those really good friends and myself became really close friends and we would skype/mic (not cam) with each other often until we both started having feelings for each other. It got to the point where we began dating online. (ik that sounds weird to most of you it was weird for me too). Everything was going so fast, and I didn't want to lie to him. I tried to take a step back and tell him to lets just be friends but he would be hurt and confused. And it hurt me so much to see that in him.
So I let it continue on. Which was soooo wrong.
I guess you can say I got carried away. Whenever he would ask me for a picture I would get all shy and send him pics of the fake girl. He would compliment her. And although he would be saying "you're pretty" to the pictures I guess in my mind I pretended he was saying it to me. That sounds so messed up I know but I was pretty messed up at that time and I won't get in the detail of it here. I knew the relationship was not going to last this way, but if I told the truth it wasn't going to last either. It was bound to end, I just didn't know how I was going to do it.
Naturally, he got curious. He wanted my fb, snapchat, instagram, all that. I told him I couldnt give it to him because I had family or I just didn't like having those things. I guess he read into it and got suspicious and one day he found out that the girl in the pictures I was sending him wasn't me. It devastated him. And it was beyond humiliating for me. He said it was like cheating.
I really could not do anything at that point. But I thought of the only good thing I could
Most Helpful Guy
You have been lying to him since the start. Even if appearance doesn't matter to him or if he found the real you attractive, you've still been lying to him and deceiving him, so he's going to question everything else you've told him about yourself as well, and he has no reason to believe that you didn't tell him other lies.0
Most Helpful Girl
... Could do is Be this Honest Jane now and show him the Real YOU, and if he doesn't like who he sees, then let this be a little lesson in life and in love that The Mirror doesn't always have two faces, especially online.
It got out of hand, and you never thought in a million years things might get to the partner point like. He was right that it was a sense of 'Cheating' but actually he was just 'Cheated' om knowing the girl behind the computer curtain that he already Matched with who he started to know.
Have a long talk with him, and now you must reveal yourself to him, or maybe lose the best thing that ever happened to you in your life.
If he is Disappointed, then it was the look that that was the cook in this online relationship and time to move on, putting him on a back burner.
Good luck. xx0
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