So in the last few days I've seen chivalry has been the hot button topic around here. Whether or not chivalry is alive or dead. Who killed it, how, and why. Whether or not it's sexist. I just wanna know do you even care? Does chivalry really mean anything to you? Do those small gestures have any real effect on your life to the point that they absolutely need to be maintained or changed?
- Yes chivalry matters to meVote A
- No chivalry isn't very importantVote B
Most Helpful Girl
I like chivalry, in a sense that I CAN look after myself, but it's nice when someone wants to look after me.
When we talk about chivalry, it can be a bit ambiguous. Some women think it's because men think we're less capable, and so they carry heavy things for us, and open doors, etc. Well, surprise surprise, generally women are physically less capable than men. We're smaller, and don't have the same natural muscle power. That's biology. So if a guy wants to carry something, I'll let him.
Can I also just remind ladies that, more often than not, when a guy is being 'chivalrous', he's actually just being a nice person? Have none of you never opened a door for someone? Picked something up, moved something aside, to make things easier? If you have, well, that's the same basic principle as chivalry. If not, well then, frankly, you need to take a long look at yourself.
Let's stop condemning guys for being good people, and maybe we'll stop seeing so many assholes.
Chivalry isn't sexist. I don't think it's dead, either. Maybe it's not as common as it used to be, but that just makes it extra special when a man goes out of his way to help me out.2
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, it is very important to me.
Not because women cannot provide for themselves, not because women shouldn't be treated like anyone else, and not because public opinion says that such thinking is archaic and sexist.
Chivalry is important because it provides a basal set of behaviors and mannerisms that a young man (with no father, no mother, or any combination of the two, or even none of the above) can build upwards upon and thus shape his personality. He can even fall back upon them if put into an undesirable situation or conflict, and the concept of chivalry is so well-known that others will identify it immediately and act accordingly.
Chivalry is also important to me because of the type of women I date, usually they appreciate being treated like a lady, like someone valued and treasured in my life, and not just because we have sex every now and then. I'll drop money on dates because its my money to spend, I'll hold open doors because I want to hold open doors, and I'll fight someone for disrespecting/embarrassing my lady out in public because such things are anathema to how civilized people should act.
And if someone has a problem with any of that... tough. Their opinions mean next to nothing compared to my own, my lady's, and my those in my social circle I care about. Everyone else can sit and spin, lol!2