As of now no girls ever show any romantic interest. I'm barely chubby and am dieting. I will also be trying to get fit. If girls show interest in me after I will feel they don't really like for who I am, but just my looks. Is this the case or are looks just what makes people inially interested but doesn't go far? Will a girl I start dating still like me if I gained weight after etc?
Most Helpful Girl
What I think is, when we look at the opposite sex, there are two things we see:
attractiveness/compatibility and health/fitness.
When a person appears more healthy, we think of them as a better mate for reproduction - one who can take care of our children effectively. And that is all that is in our subconscious mind. Thus, a healthier person is more likely to be attractive, although this can differ for different people.
Besides, staying healthy requires effort and there's got to be some reward. So more people find you attractive and wish to be with you.
And what I think about 'liking you for who you are' is more of your personality/character or your past than the physical looks (usually).
However, the good news is not everyone is looking for models out here for partners (though we wouldn't mind! ;) ), but just other normal people like themselves. Ofc, you should be like yourself (to the world) but have to do something out of the ordinary for the person you love so you can impress and make them fall for you.
Good day, stranger!0
Most Helpful Guy
try to keep it off but confidence will go a long way too timing is key dont be afriad of rejection dont fall too hard too fast dont let a break up ruin you and dont seem desperate wich means dont overly obsess dont forget you're homies live for the day working out should be actual "work" or a job they dont just want money but money can be usfull when it comes to dates the guys who look "cut" usually are jerks and women find this intriuging but dont be a jerk dont be afriad to show emotions but not to often its a game of balance inner strength will get you a lot further than the outer in life and relationships if you want a relationship take time slowly get to know a girl that you know keep spending time with her untill she gets to know you for who you are that is key if she doesent know who you truly are then she can't love you for who you are dont get discouraged keep pushing she's waiting its up to you to find her she's waiting for you to somewhere get up and go get her! as always stay happy stay healthy and stay handsome!0