As a guy, I'm asking mostly from the man's pov (i. e. does this tactic work on women?) but I'm curious if people believe this method to be effective.
Does ignoring a girl that's interested in you (within reason) make you more atttractive?
""Playing hard to get might be one way that people – women in particular – can test their prospective mate's commitment and to manipulate their prospective mates to obtain what – or whom – they want," said the psychologists who carried out the study. "We revealed that the more unavailable a person is, the more people are willing to invest in them. It seems as though your grandmother's advice might be true – absence may indeed make the heart grow fonder.""
- This tactic is essential in happy relationships of all kinds.3% (1)17% (3)8% (4)Vote
- This tactic helps but you have to be very careful about it.18% (6)22% (4)20% (10)Vote
- This tactic works for short term relationships only.3% (1)11% (2)6% (3)Vote
- This tactic only works on some people.27% (9)28% (5)27% (14)Vote
- This tactics is a myth.12% (4)11% (2)12% (6)Vote
- Don't. Do it. Ever.37% (12)11% (2)27% (14)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
I think there is a little something to that line of thought... But just a little bit. Men & women typically just think differently about situations. When a guy is really interested and shows it, a woman will sometimes respond in a way that may seem clingy to the guy all of the sudden.
I think it can go both ways (for men and women) but I think the key is maintaining a good amount of space and affection at the same time. The struggle is finding the balance... Not sure being 'mean' is really the best way to handle that though.0
Most Helpful Guy
Here's the thing: Unless you have some serious money and/or personal power behind you, playing bouncer with your personal time against women will not work to your advantage.
This is why celebrities get as much action as they do (or can do), because they have both money and personal power. And money can buy personal power.
More likely, you are going to start developing a reputation as a snob, because women do talk and occasionally "compare notes." And that quote applies to those in a committed relationship that either find themselves distanced or they cannot be with one another as much as they'd like to be (like if one or both have demanding jobs).
You may be listening to some bad advice or are misinterpreting it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, true... but only if that heart is keyed to another.0