Obviously it is possible to work through this, but is it likely?
I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years and we have two children together. Yes, we have had our ups and downs, just like any other relationship but we have always worked through these obstacles.
Now we have been in a rut for about three months now. Financially we have been somewhat unstable and as a last resort, I'm going to go stay with my friend in the city (she got me a job as a supervisor where she works). Neither me or my boyfriend like the idea because my friends apartment is small so only I can go. I will only be working four days a week however and I will be back home for the other three days.
I'm young and quite inexperienced when it comes to the "real world", even at age 22. I have yet to hit any "rock bottom" moments, thank the Lord for that. But as I sit here and think of this situation, I am starting to becomes panicked. Even though this is only a temporary fix until I save up enough money to get my family into a new home where we can be together. But generally speaking, it will probably be a month to two months before that transition is even possible. I will be making $9 an hour, 10-12 hour days. So overtime is almost guaranteed (only due to being understaffed).
I guess I am just wondering if anyone has done this or something similar to this situation. My babies are 4 and 2, so the idea of being away from them for four days out of the week is sending me for quite the little loop. And where I already have an anxiety disorder, I believe that my over thinking is probably what's causing me to panic. I leave today and start work tomorrow. I have worked here in my past so its nothing new to me. Just the idea of being away from my babies and my boyfriend is killing me.
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Holy crap, you have 2 kids with no stable income. Technically, you hit rock bottom and started digging. Anyway, does your boyfriend work? If he does, is there anyone else who can take care of your kids while you are away? How much will the rent be if you saved money for 2 months. Let's do the math. Let's assume you get the maximum amount of hours. An 8 hour day will give you $72 + 4 hours of overtime (assuming time and a half) gives you $54. That is $126 per day and would equate to $2016 (assuming 4 day workday) a month which is not very much money. The best case scenario is where you and your boyfriend work and a third party takes care of your kids preferably for free, aka family.1
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