Why is it not okay for fit guys to reject the idea of dating overweight girls? I've been set up on three blind dates by friends and relatives, and each time the girl was at least what I call "soft," meaning that she wasn't fat but wasn't in shape, either. In one case the girl was downright fat, like she was well over 200 pounds. I just wasn't into these girls, and when pressed, I told two friends why I didn't want to date their friend. They got pissed at me and have never entirely let me forget it.
As a disclaimer, I used to be 60 pounds overweight and got myself in shape through hard work. I had to completely remake my body from scratch. I was not only fat but also totally weak and out of shape. It took years of hard work for me to get into good shape with weightlifting and clean eating. I totally understand what it's like to be fat, so I don't hate fat people at all, it's just that I'm attracted to fit girls. Honestly, though, girls didn't want to date me when I was fat, so I consider it to be fair that I won't date overweight girls now.
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Yes, if a guy takes the required time, energy, focus, and self-discipline to remain fit and build muscle, then it is okay for him to not want to date overweight women. Physical fitness is a lifestyle. It’s a long term decision that must be carefully maintained. Dating someone who is overweight and does not make a conscious effort to take care of their body on a certain level will deter you from that goal. Say you get in a great work out where you sweat a ridiculous amount and even feel sore later on. Later that evening the overweight girl insists on meeting up and eating out. You try to suggest doing something else but she’s adamant about eating out. You give in to spend time with her and waste your workout essentially wasting all of the hard work, time, and energy you put forward earlier. Often times when you date someone seriously or get into a relationship with them, their habits naturally start impacting your lifestyle. If you’re dating someone overweight who doesn’t make physical self-care a habit then you’re more likely to find yourself being a slacker and revert back to old, negative habits.
However, being completely dismissive of women because they don’t have a certain body type can backfire on you. Not everything that shines is gold. So while the woman with the more fit body may “glimmer and shine”, you may learn that she’s more like a tube of glitter as opposed to the girl with a different shape who’s a legitimate stack of gold.0