there is this guy and him and I have a great emotional connection we are both seniors in high school (18 years) however he is not a virgin and I am not ready to have sex yet but i also try to remain open mind
there is also another girl who likes him as well him and her have no emotional connection whatsoever however she is a total freak in the sheets and practically throws her pu$$y at him All THE TIME!!
I am NOT a hater the girl and I are both very pretty in our own way. I have the adorable innocent look with a bad side. She has the typical slut and make up packed sexy look. it's like he would rather hang out with me because I have a really cool personality that clicks well with his however he is a teenage boy with raging hormones.
I'm like her ⬇⬇
( cute /adorable)
And the other girl is like this⬇⬇(sexy/very reviling and easy)
- emotional connection (me)Vote A
- SEXXXx (her)Vote B
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I can make this real simple, albeit long.
*Females are primarily concerned with connections and love--though, they still desire sex.
*Males are primarily concerned with sex--though, they still desire connectedness and 'realtionshipyness'.
So, connection to guys is what sex is to you. Sorta.
You would do well to accept this: sex is mental for females. Sex is a physical *urge* for males. And not always a desired one. It's just something we 'have' to do. Or go for. Something we are compelled towards. Much like the female compulsion for romanticism. Doesn't mean you dislike sex. But it does mean that's more important to you than sex.
These instincts originate from our different reproductive set up. Females only have one egg per month, while males have a near-unlimited amount of sperm. It's the same concept as economics. If you have less of a product, the price rises. If you have an abundance of a product, the price gets cheaper. It's all about reproduction.
Say, money-wise. If you have 1,000 dollars, and a male has 1,000,000,000 you're going to be a lot more picky in what you buy, right? It's sorta like that.
Biologically, a woman is being most efficient when she allows only the 'best' males to have a shot at fertilizing her egg. The way she understands which male is 'the best potential mate atm' is by feelings and love. This is why emotional attachment is paramount to females, in order for them to want sex. Because they don't want to waste an egg on a poor male. This means (less so in modern times, but our instincts haven't quite caught up with us) sex is *high risk* for females and *low risk* for males. Which leads to our different approaches towards reproduction.
Biologically, a man is being most efficient when he's having sex with as many females as possible: spreading the genes around as much as possible. And so, that is why we are biologically driven to fuck as many females as possible. (women are not immune to the desire for many different partners, however: and, they will eventually want to jump to a better male)
Incidentally, this is also why females have innate value in society, while males must prove their lives have value through accomplishment and occupation. This is clearly shown in our attitudes towards a woman dying as opposed to a man dying.
In essence, males desire both. Just like you. It's just one aspect is more important than the other. So, it just depends on how he deals with his physical urge. As a teen with raging hormon0