I feel that whenever I care too much for my boyfriend, aka I reply his texts instantly, I hug him and touch him all the time, I have sex with him whenever he wants... he seems more distant, aka he stops texting me good night, he doesn't reply my texts until 5 hours later, he is less touchy-feely.
Yes, it could be all in my imagination, and yes, he could have other things on his mind like schoolwork... but it is also true that when I care less aka I don't reply him so quickly, I pull back a little when we hang out... etc, he becomes more affectionate and less distant.
Also, I am worried he is thinking of breaking up with me.
In short, how do I care less about my boyfriend? I want to protect myself/hold back a little in case he does decide to break up with me. How do I stop wondering what he's doing, why he isn't replying my texts and what he's thinking about me? I hate this feeling, really.
Most Helpful Guy
Just don't care that much. You could stop writing such long essays about it for example. There are other guys in this word so keep your options up so that you can easily have a new relationship when your boyfriend leaves (doesn't mean that you should flirt with other guys or cheat on your boyfriend just befriend with some guys) or just mirror his behavior but I think this stuff is childish just talk with him1
Most Helpful Girl
Meh, be aware of what you say and do.
''Why didn’t you call when you got off work?'' ''Where were you last night? You didn’t answer my text right away.'' ''Let me know when you get home so I know you’re safe.'' It’s the little sentences we drop that can scream loud messages to guys; in this case, ''I’m your mom and you need to let me know your whereabouts at all times, mister.''
Pay attention to the message you’re sending with your offhand comments, and you might be able to avoid communicating that you’re needy and uptight if you’re truly not.