Hi, need expert help from women who can help me understand this beautiful woman I'm dating better. This is my first question so don’t disappoint! I apologize in advance about the question being long as I feel like I need to tell you the whole story thus far. I met this girl a month or so ago at an airport. We got along really well during that initial conversation. By the time I even asked her for her number, she had already asked me out for drinks for the coming Thursday. When I didn't email or call before the date, she added me on Facebook and emailed me to make sure I went. The drinks date went well, nothing physical. I also found out that she recently came out of a serious relationship recently. After that we exchanged a few emails (became daily one email exchange) for a period of two weeks during which we went on a few more dates. I surprised with some hard to get show tickets, which she loved and dinner after that. Again I tried to get some touchy feely response but I didn’t get anything back from her. On each date, we both thoroughly enjoyed each others' company and I kept getting emails about how much she enjoyed the night out. The last date we went on was to a movie and dinner afterwards. Again, from my point of view it went great. I finally got some physical feedback from her towards the end of the date where she put her head on my shoulder. I held for a bit which she didn’t resist and then kissed her. I got a nice smile from her. I put her in a cab shortly after that and she said “let’s chat on email tomorrow.” Since that point she has been acting strangely. She canceled on a tennis date we setup before I kissed her that night. Now I when I send her an email I get responses after three-four days. I tried to setup another date in the last email and she just brushed that aside and spoke about everything else. She sent me her last email before she went away this long weekend (took time off) with her sister. She asked me about my new year’s eve etc, spoke about being busy dealing with her best friend who broke up with her fiance and said “I will talk to you when I’m back.” I do have enough dating experience to know that she is playing some sort of game. Usually I would back off and wouldn’t bother contacting her again. The problem I’m having here is that she is such a cool girl that I really want to pursue her as I have never done before, putting my ego aside. She always replies but never makes any plans and it always me, that’s another thing that bothers me. Every guy I spoke to told me to ignore her but I worry I will lose her because she is after all a beautiful girl. OK you beautiful, smart women out there what do you say? Please help me understand what really is going through her mind? What are my next steps? Do I email/call or let her go. Thank you so much in advance!
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I think that she really likes you and that's what she is scared of. You know? She just got out of a relationship and was thinking she would have a great friend. Now she sees that you are more than a friend and tries to run. I'm thinking that she needs to get her things straight and you need to talk to her about your kiss and tell her that you can wait for anything serious. I know that if I just got out of something like that I would be in her same situation. She wants something to hold onto but doesn't want the chances.0
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