I am 22 and I work with a man who is 55. I think he's so cute and sexy. He is a real gentleman, very intelligent and very funny. He also is in perfect shape physically and very handsome for a man his age. He is still 55. But he bikes about 8 miles each way to work and I've seen him arm wrestle men who are 20. He is 6'3" which I really like (I'm 5'8").
He is divorced with three young children and he is really involved with them, although his ex is a total bitch. She's 45 by the way.
I've had nothing but bad experiences with guys my age, and there have been many. So many are boys, immature, selfish, dumb. I'm not interested in watching football or playing video games.
Have other girls had crushes like this and what's wrong with going for it?
You don't choose to be in love, it just happens. So, don't think you're not normal because this isn't weird, like I said, it just happens. Getting involved with him is a whole different matter though, your age gap is too big. I'm not saying that it won't work, I just mean that you need to think about it clearly, if you hadn't done it already.
Meh, okay, personally I don't think it will work out long-run. I could be totally wrong because you sound compatible but 33 years is a huge gap in terms of maturity, outlook, wants, desires, etc.
Plus like you said yourself, when you're even 40 he'll be 73. Younger men I'd assume to be more energetic and wouldn't be as settled down as him. You could easily have a change of heart in the next 5-10 years and want somebody closer to your age, so you can see them grow old with you not before you.
The way you described it, it sounds like your level of compatibility is based on material things (films, trips, money, alcohol) but you didn't say how you emotionally get along. If you're feeling that a split is inevitable in the future then it likely will be.
I'm not going to comment one way or the other about the age difference, but I will tell you one thing: don't say that the wife is a bitch unless you REALLY know her. You don't know what's happened in their past, and that makes ALL the difference.
The age gap itself is uncommon in Western countries, but you yourself are normal. You're both consenting adults though at different stages in your life, and you seem to be drawn to normal aspects about him that makes him an attractive mate. Practically speaking, it will have serious challenges both considering his age and that he has kids... especially in the long run you will see the challenges add up. That doesn't mean it couldn't work, but you will have to take your time thinking about where you want to go with this, because practicality is an important pillar to any relationship.
your not the only girl who fell in love with an older man. remember that
You can't help who you fall for. I'm 21 and had feelings for a guy that is 51. He is intelligent, super kind to everyone, quiet, but funny. There's something about the way he smiles and laughs that I just love. He's with someone, so I'm totally not going to do anything, but I like him. I do like this 32 year old guy as well, who has similar qualities. I think it's the qualities that attracts me.
If he is single, I say go for it. Why deny yourself a possible happy life with him?
Am afraid to say, that is seriously NOT a healthy relationship.
Have you considered for one moment that he is actually old enough to be your GRANDFATHER
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