I am 22 and I work with a man who is 55. I think he's so cute and sexy. He is a real gentleman, very intelligent and very funny. He also is in perfect shape physically and very handsome for a man his age. He is still 55. But he bikes about 8 miles each way to work and I've seen him arm wrestle men who are 20. He is 6'3" which I really like (I'm 5'8").
He is divorced with three young children and he is really involved with them, although his ex is a total bitch. She's 45 by the way.
I've had nothing but bad experiences with guys my age, and there have been many. So many are boys, immature, selfish, dumb. I'm not interested in watching football or playing video games.
Have other girls had crushes like this and what's wrong with going for it?
- I need to get to a therapistVote A
- I'm a normal girlVote B
A guy my age could be my brother. So why not criticize that?
Most Helpful Guy
You don't choose to be in love, it just happens. So, don't think you're not normal because this isn't weird, like I said, it just happens. Getting involved with him is a whole different matter though, your age gap is too big. I'm not saying that it won't work, I just mean that you need to think about it clearly, if you hadn't done it already.0
Most Helpful Girl
Meh, okay, personally I don't think it will work out long-run. I could be totally wrong because you sound compatible but 33 years is a huge gap in terms of maturity, outlook, wants, desires, etc.
Plus like you said yourself, when you're even 40 he'll be 73. Younger men I'd assume to be more energetic and wouldn't be as settled down as him. You could easily have a change of heart in the next 5-10 years and want somebody closer to your age, so you can see them grow old with you not before you.
The way you described it, it sounds like your level of compatibility is based on material things (films, trips, money, alcohol) but you didn't say how you emotionally get along. If you're feeling that a split is inevitable in the future then it likely will be.