I'm almost 18 and I have feelings for my former boss who is now 33 years old. He has a kid, a girlfriend, a very well paying job, and he's been nothing but a kind sweet guy to me. When I first met him I felt very strongly attracted to him but I thought it was just infatuation and I never said anything (plus he's always had a girlfriend). While working together we definitely told each other more than we should have about each other. We got SUPER close and bonder really well. We just had each others back. When I left I felt a tinge of regret in my heart. I literally felt so depressed at the thought of saying goodbye to him. Not only did we get along so well, we had so much sexual attraction that was just never acknowledged in our relationship. I moved states- I'm going to college and I have several great things going for me. I'm very mature for my age and I don't bond well with guys my age for this reason. I work and go to school full time. When I moved, we exchanged number to keep in contact. We texted almost everyday and he gave me advice when I felt lost or told me what to do to avoid taking a wrong turn. He knows a lot about me. So much. Even when things got bad he was always there. I really started to adore him and need him in my life and same with him. We kept texting everyday and slowly started talking about "us". personal questions, flirting, banter. I decided that I was uncomfortable with him having a girlfriend and he told me I wasn't even 18 and he was waiting until I turned 18. We made plans to see eachother the next time I went back home (Marchish 2016) Weve fought about certain topics like the idea of him using me for sex and what his intentions were and I don't know. At the end of everything I feel like I've made him distrust me because I questioned his intentions and now I miss him. He just sent me something in the mail and it got lost-never arrived. He made it by hand and I am upset I never recieved it. I think about him so much. toI feel like I am only going
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Uh, this is a bad idea. At best he let an inappropriate relationship form that he should have been mature enough not to nurture it. At worst he is a master manipulator who does intend to use you for sex. I just see way to many red flags.
Let him know that you are not interested in him romantically. You do value the friendship, but it must be a friendship with stiff boundaries, no hanging out alone.
He will probably get mad or upset, but it's not worth entering a creepy, unpractical and dangerous relationship.1
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