I don't like when she smokes and thta is my big pet peeve. I never get mad and am a nice person but when she smokes and we're together i leave the area. She gets mad and says why i leave her alone. I tried yelling at her one time but that didn't help, she just smokes more. I tell her she could spend her money on other things but she doesn't want to listen. She started smoking about 3 months ago and i'm not a fan at all.
She gets all moody when i start to talk to her about smoking so now i just walk away if she does smoke.
What other things can i do? I truly am worried for her health.
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You have to respect that ultimatley it's her choice. You can be there to help he if she decides to quit, but you can't make her do it, and trying will only piss her off.
You are obviously well within your rights however to step out of the room every time she lights up, and not allow it in your space, you should put your health first.
In the long run though... if she started knowing you dont like it, and you have been pretty adimant from the start that she should stop, she's going to keep going regardless of what you do.
Best option talk it through with her. Ask why she's smoking. Raise your health concerns for her and yourself. Don't giver her an ultimatum, just lay down clearly what you will do when she smokes, where/when she will be allowed to smoke at your place and ask her if she will meet you half way and not smoke in certain times or places (such as in bed). If she won't meet you half way when you ask politelty without blame, then the relationships pretty much dead.0