been dating this girl for about a year she has a son that I've gotten very close to who looks at me as a father. I love them both very much. We have not had sex yet because she said she wanted to wait tell we got married witch I agreed to. but I recently found out she's been sleeping with a guy she use to date he lives out of state but everyone 1 or 2 month when he comes to town they hook up. so I told her that's what she wants to do and thats what makes you happy that she could keep doing it. I know its not ideal but I feel like it's a price I'm willing to pay to keep them in my life. I'm I crazy for allowing this?
I'm not even holyfking at what u told her, i'm holyfking at that situation where she said she doesn't want to have sex until she marry u but then she fucks another guy. LIke HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLYSHYT i swear to god my heart beat rised a lot when i read that. It rised because i imagined i was in your place and that happens to me. Oh god... and then i continue reading that u were okay witH that?
I'm sorry bro, you r not crazy, you are retarded.
On a more serious note, from a man to you, I never want to see any guy in that situation so i want to help you.
No matter how ugly you are, have enough respect for yourself to tell her to get the fk out of your life. Don't ever in your life settle for a situation like this. It will only break your HEART more and more. I know it REALLY broke your heart when you found out she was fucking that guy. Even my heart was broken just from imagining that i swear to god. I don't even know how you were able to tell her you are cool with it.
Just delete her from your life completely, I know you love her, but you gotta forget about her, delete every kind of communication with her and everything that reminds you of her this will help you to forget her 10 times faster. It's either that or you SET your own grounds and tell her to never see that guy again and to come to your bed to fuck her RIGHT now.
I swear man, you better not have been trolling us. This really ruined my mood and appetite, i was eating when i was reading this. This is so fking messed up.
She is using you 100% and I don't see her ever making you truly happy. Dump her sorry ass and find a woman who actually cares about you and would want to fuck you day and night from how much they love you.
yes... you are I think she is taking advantage of you. If she wants to wait till marriage, but sleeps with her X she is using you. I can't believe you allow this. You sound like a very nice guy. I know you deserve way more than what she is giving you.
I read a bunch of this stuff and ugh okay first off your not crazy but you are attached. You are being used and that's very unfair to you everyone deserves a partner who will not cheat on them and it is cheating. Also thinking about it is she going to continue to do this after your married she may just expect you to be okay with it then too. Best advice be honest tell her I care about you and your son and that what she is doing is completely unacceptable. If she stops and your able to move on good if she doesn't tell her you deserve better and to have fun with her fuck buddy. If it was me I'd pick myself up and just leave.
It's only not crazy if you're into open relationships, but if you're into monogamy and are making such a sacrifice for that girl, then yes, it's crazy.
Now get the hell away from that mess. She is simply using you. If you want to be treated like a door mat and used well that's your business. You are not dating, you are a friend who meets her for dinner, watch a movie or watch her kid. You are not her boyfriend. If she had any feelings for you she would not be banging this other guy. I mean seriously, how stupid is that? "We can't have sex until we marry but I am going to go fuck this other guy". WTF
Man up, move on and have some self respect. Please, it will be better for all of you.
That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. She lied to you about the whole sex thing. It just sounds like she needs a bill payer. Get out now! Please have enough self-respect to know that this is not right.
She won't sleep with you for ethical reasons? But will sleep with her ex whenever he wants? Im sorry man but you really need to look at the health of your elationship. Is this healthy for you? Is it even healthy for her? She's using you to be a parent to her child, and a stable guy for her to lean on, while having the fun she wants elsewhere.
your stronger than I am because if I found out that about my woman her ass would be out the door!! there is no justafiabel reason she should require someone else while you sit waiting. I feel your making a mistake by staying with her. she's just using as a back up possibly to raise the child?