I had enough of this BS now😂 I just can't put up with it anymore. WOW.
(I'm trying not to boast, this is the situation)
So I'm a multi-instrumental musician and I have performances almost every week. This allows for many people to be exposed to me thus I am well known around my social circle & suburb.
I have female friends scattered all over the place that literally are like spies and they feed me information about the conversations about me that have been amongst the girls.
I'm seeing that a lot of the girls have interest in me but sometimes the feeling isn't mutual.
On the other hand, I have a handful of girls that im trying to chase but they ALWAYS seem to be pushing me away?
I'm so frustrated! 😢 why is it all the girls that I want that are rejecting me? Don't share the same thoughts as other girls?
Most Helpful Girl
We tend to want what we can't have. It's an unfortunate thing that I've been on the receiving and distributing end of (there's a better way to say that but I can't think too much right now).
I mean, when something is easy to obtain, it's kind of just 'okay, cool'. But when you want something that evades you, that makes you work hard, that's when it becomes 'Wow, I gotta' have this'.
We totally understand. And I mean, all those girls who like you (the ones you don't like) they're in the same shoes as you right now, so don't think no one else is experiencing the same thing.
Anyway, your best option is not to harass the girls you like, but you give 'em so space and make them think you don't really want them, even if you do. Here are the benefits of acting like so:
1. She doesn't feel trapped or forced to make a decision.
2. She wants what she can't have (see that?) even if she has no intention of returning the feelings.
3. If she ends up being not interested ever, you haven't overstepped your boundaries, and things won't be awkward.
While that's all true, however, you can't just never say anything. She'll never come forward unless she's really bold. At this point, let her know you see something great in her, and give subtle cues. She'll notice. I promise.
After the cues have been dropped, play hard to get.9
Most Helpful Guy
My parents have a pet cat. Every time I wanna pet it it keeps running away from me. But every time I am eating something the cat comes around and starts meowing. perhaps you should stop chasing girls and carry on self improving yourself. The girls you're attracted to are likely to come around. "if you build it they will come."25