I am waiting for marriage to have sex, and have been waiting for 21 years, and I have been in a 5 month relationship with this girl, who recently informed me that she has had sex before. That really pissed me off, because I like this girl, but I was immediately turned off when she told me that. I thought about it and decided that if she couldnt wait for me (if we got married), then I dont want her, so I broke up with her. She was devastated because she really liked me, and her friends keep harassing me about breaking up with her for a "stupid" reason as they put it. I'm not backing down though, and told her friends to f off, most of the reason I am waiting for marriage is because I love my future spouse enough to not have sex with anyone but them, and she clearly didn't love her future spouse enough to do that, so I dont want to take the relationship any further. She claims to have changed, she claims to be a different person now, but I'm pretty sure she is just saying that to get back with me. Either way I am over her, that turned me off so much that she had sex before, that I really dont want to be romantically involved with her anymore. Is this unreasonable?
Most Helpful Girl
If that's how you truly feel then there isn't anything wrong with that. I mean it sucks and she's really hurt over it. Still better to do what you feel is right than to carry on doing something your not 100% happy with.
Though once y'all got to know each other better you should have told her about how your waiting for marriage and want to be with a virgin like you. Instead of finding out she isn't a virgin and both of y'all having deeper feelings for each other. Causing the break up to be more painful than it could have been.
I'm sure she didn't have sex because she didn't care about any future spouse. I'm sure she did it because it's an experience. For some people having sex helps them understand what they truly like in a guy and more about them selves. Your subconscious comes into play during sex. Ends up pointing out if you truly feel comfortable with that person. If your emotions for them is 100% true. How compatible you truly are with the person.1
Most Helpful Guy
Sort of , this should of came up right on the first or second date, most girls will have had sex at that age and you may not find someone that you like that is still a virgin right away , your basically breaking up with her because her first relationship didn't work out5