You always hear women in movies say and the. We stayed up all night talking. My boyfriend and I have never and will never spend hours continuously chatting. Not to say we don't have conversations about what city we would live in if not here, politics and pasts or what not but he isn't a big talker.
But it we go on long walks and say almost nothing. I'm comfortable with our silence but at the same time it makes me wonder what bonds us. Sometimes I fear it is the sex and we are just kidding ourselves. But then others we'll both look at each other and know what the other is about to say and say it at the same time.
Do do you always have a lot to talk about with your other?
I think if two people can't really share with each other in a relationship it's a bad sign. It's not like people who can share will automatically have a successful relationship but I strongly believe people need to have a bond of communication. Without that the relationship feels more and more distant if people aren't completely comfortable sharing. Being uncomfortable talking or not having stuff to say can make you question the relationship and feel like you're not right for each other. It can also build resentment.
When I'm in a relationship I do, I can't imagine a relationship where I couldn't talk a lot with my partner. But I don't like only me doing the talking, I love being with someone that likes to exchanged points of view about a variety of things. So I understand how you feel.
Do you know if he behaves like this with everyone or just with you? Because maybe he's a very quiet person.
No because it's a pain in the ass and exhaustING. You should not have to put energy into a relationship to sustain it, those moments of silence are what let's you think and be self aware of what's going on around you.
I have both kind of relationships, ones where we talk endlessly and others where we have comfortable silences, but still a connection. I prefer the first kind much much more. They were much more fulfilling.
But that's just me. I am an ardent conversationalist, thrive in the world of ideas and generally curious about the world. People who are built differently can't sustain such deep extended conversations all the time.
So you need to understand if you are one of these type of people. If so, how important for you is it for you...
But are there things you want to talk about that you feel you can't? Some couples aren't as chatty as others, but are still happy. I'd say it's a concern if you want to talk but are afraid that he won't want to have a conversation. Silence isn't a bad thing, but when fear comes into your mind, it isn't a good thing. I'd honestly sit down with him and ask his if he is okay with it and if he feel like he can go to you and talk to you about anything. Sometimes reassurance can be the best thing.
yeah my boyfriend and i will talk until we fall asleep, but we are in a long distance relationship so we probably spend less time together. Do you know any of his interests? would you be willing to attempt to enjoy what he does? for example: if he likes gaming and you aren't really fond of it, just try playing the games he likes (and more than just 5 minutes) and you may notice you'll have more to talk about and he may even spend more time with you..
I'm pretty chatty - I can chat bullshit for the UK in the Olympics.
The latest me and my boyfriend have stayed up talking was about 3:30am. That was when we were first dating. And since then, he's woken up at 3am to find me crying and we've stayed up and talked, but other than that no.
We normally go to bed and sleep haha. Even then he gets entertainment from me - I'm a nightmare when I'm asleep as well as awake.
I used to with both of my ex's. I could spend hours on the phone with them.
My ex-boyfriend was very talkative. Looking back it wasn't all that mutual and natural, though. It's not that I can't be talkative, I definitely am with my close friends - those are the girls I can stay up all night talking to and sharing myself with, or even just enjoying each other's presence in silence - but for some reason with him, I just didn't click with him as much. I'd listen more than talk, and we rarely had comfortable silences, because he always felt the need to fill them with words.
I still liked being around him and all, and we had fun, good times, but I think we just weren't on the same wavelength and that might be why I never fell in love with him.
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