Imagine: you're seeing someone casually (not serious but not just sex either) and after some months you develop feelingd. You know that person is awesome but you don't really want a relationship and you know you wouldn't be a very good match, even if it's so much fun to hang out with that person.
The thing is if you don't really want to change things, but you just have a certain need to feel validated at an emotional level... But asking could make it all awkward... or not? does it make sense?
So, what do you do?
Stop seeing the person
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Keep on seeing the person and never mention that you're having feelings
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Say what you feel to see if they feel the same (seeking validation, not a relationship)
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Start getting to know and go on dates with other people to keep your mind entertained
Feelings happen, and it's not a bad thing. I'm of the opinion that you should always be open about your feelings, because it's a healthier state of being. Nothing has to change by sharing them. They might, but that's of no real consequence.
Same story for the first girl I fell for her in 6th standard and studied in same class for next 6yrs, couldn't get over her until, she was so damn cute beautiful she was the perfect woman , I know it so I decided to wait for time to pull us apart, as I thought and I still think she deserves better then me. Unless I get lucky and end up becoming a rich famous, nice handsome celebrity. Which has a very rare chance of happening.
I'm kind of in same boat. I developed feelings for a girl and I don't want things to get messy between us and move to fast but I would like to advance it a little or at very least keep it same. problem is we are not dating
Carry on as You have been doing here, dear. And if the subject at hand Needs to be Approached or Broached by the Other person, get on the same page so there isn't any rage, and see what happens from there with you Both whom I Know... Do care. Good luck. xx
Maybe try dating other people, two things can happen a you realize that the person you are causal dating is really the guy you want to be with or b you realize for sure that you don't want a relationship with him and just move on.
Are you sure you don't have feelings for this person? It kind of sounds like you are. Why else would you worry about things becoming awkward if you mention that you are not interested in anything serious?
I got a crush on a friend of three years, and suddenly got a mad crush so i waited six weeks then i told him i was crushing bu tdidnt intend to do anything about it but i felt wrong not having him know i thought that way, and that made it easier for me to back off, because he knew when he hugged me or passed notes it ment more then he would want it too.