I'm 27, he's 30. We both have good jobs and are going on a second date tonight to the movies. He paid for our first date, and I'm wondering at what point do I offer to pay?
I know we're in the "courting stage" or whatever but I start to feel bad having him pay for me!
Most Helpful Guy
Its kind of a girl to always offer to help pay, but most guys would prefer being paid back elsewhere (no, stop thinking dirty, that isn't even what I meant!)
If a girl can cook, I love when she offers to cook for me after I've bought her dinner previously. Also, bringing food, deserts, or beverages, or even gifts when you visit is nice.
The reason I don't like splitting that much, is because it ends the chain of kind gestures. You take what could have been a kind gesture that would be repaid by another kind gesture, causing a chain reaction of kind gestures to repay one another with, and you turn it into just a math equation: 100%/ 2 = 50%
That being said, its always best to offer to split the bill if you're eating out and it wasn't the guys idea to go. If you end up eating out spontaniously, and its either your idea to go to a restauraunt, or something you both decided to do out of necessity, its not quite the same as a guy inviting you out to dinner, and even gentlemen may be put off by women not splitting the bill under those circumstances.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should offer to pay when you feel like it. I usually offer the first date, because I just don't care. If a guy gets offended about me offering on the first date, so be it. Though it is nice if the guy treats. I say that if he paid for the first date, I would offer to pay the second date. I think that would be a nice gesture. I don't think it would ever be a bad thing if a girl offered to pay even really early on.
It shows that you are not just concerned with money and that you are willing to help out. I'm sure he will appreciate that! Plus I think guys like getting treated too!0