My boyfriend & I just started working in the same building, but not for the same company. This scares the crap out of me. I worked with someone I was with before and the whole relationship turned ugly. So, I've been anxious all week & he's been grumpy because work & I flipped out. He was really good about it, but I need to chill out. What are some tips to calm anxiety, because I don't want to push him away, as he loves me because I'm a strong person, not some wuss who needs comforting.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, if it's any help. The anxiety will lessen if you feel like you have some control over the situation.
My girlfriend and I have the same situation. We work in the same bldg, but for different companies. We also live together now and we met at work. We set some pretty basic guidelines, ...
Work is for work, when we are at work , she might as well be on the other side of the planet. If we happen to run into each other we might chat for a minute or two but we don't go out of our way to talk to one another.
We don't hide our relationship, most everyone there knows we are together, but we don't publicize it either.
We don't commute together or coordinate our work times, we just do what we need to do and coordinate our off time together.
Work is for work, not for our relationship.0
Most Helpful Girl
Breath maybe do some yoga (I know that sounds lame but it makes you aware of your breathing and tones you). Know that this guy isn't the loser you dated before and just because he is now working in your building nothing has changed. Maybe you guys can ride together to work which is a positive.
Worst case scenario if hints don't work out you see him rarely in the elevator. You can modify your schedule by as little as 15 minutes so that doesn't happen.
You're making too big a deal of it and that is the real threat to your relationship. I'd be totally heartbroken of somehow I ended up working in the same building as my boyfriend and he freaked out. To me it would indicate he doesn't see a future together which, at your age and being in love, you should. I hope this helps. Best1